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writes:I seem to have the same problem this year. I'm at a new school and i'm friends with all the popular girls and they are all really outgoing and i am when i'm around people not in that group. So last night i went out with a bunch of them and i found myself just listening to conversations instead of contributing then the guys asked my friend why i wasn't talking i just want to get rid of this whole not talking thing but i'm having the hardest time with it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno im in the group with the girls like we are all friends i think i explained the situation wrong...that night there were guys there and i think thats what my hangup was. im friends with some of the guys like close friends and some of the other i dont really know very well...my two best friends are friends with all the guys and when they see them give them hugs and stuff but wen im with them i feel like i dont really talk the guys that im comfertable with i do hug and can carry on a conversation with...i think my real question is how to be more comfertable with these guys that im not so much friends with
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 It could be a confidence thing. It could also be because you actually have nothing to say. Maybe you belong with different girls or maybe you're just a quiet person. It could be anything.
You could learn to talk with one or two members of the group, rather than to everyone. Bring yourself up to the stage where you can talk to everyone and anyone.
Overall though, some people are outgoing and others aren't.
If you're comfortable talking to people outside of this group then maybe you would be happier with different friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Perhaps you dont feel comfortable with these girls. Do you feel like you aren't good enough for them? You describe them as the "popular girls" as though you aren't in that crowd. You as an individual, have interesting contributions to make in any given situation. Sometimes though we just don't gel with certain people, or feel comfortable with them. It's nothing that they, or you, are doing wrong, it's just life. If you know in that same conversation with other girls, you would be totally different, I would hang around with the other girls instead. It's important to be comfortable and be yourself.
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