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writes:I need help getting over my ex. We've been together for 2 years. At first he was really nice and sweet but then after a few months he changed. Mostly my fault but also his mothers and his. Anyways we ended up having a baby together and only after 5 months he broke up with me. We had been fighting a lot and he got tired of me not doing things I should be. Though he wasn't doing them either. He's been nothing but mean to me since and I can't stop thinking about him and feeling like ill never find someone else. Message me if you guys wanna know the full story. But how can I get over my first love?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 October 2010):
Hi there. It's a pity you allowed yourself to fall pregnant so young. Unfortunately, you can't turn back the clock so you have to live with the consequences.
You will get over your ex in time, but it will take some time.
In the meantime, try to keep yourself busy, and that shouldn't be too hard with a young baby. Try also to get some balance in your life, by doing things you enjoy. Maybe you could start some interesting hobbies.
Get back to seeing your friends, go out for coffee and cake and talk, laugh and be happy. Don't forget to have fun.
If you feel like getting out of the house, put on some comfortable clothes and walking shoes and go for a nice, long relaxing walk with your baby in a stroller. It's great for removing stress and will give you a new perspective on life. You will also have more energy. Make it a regular habit.
Don't be in any hurry to find another partner for a while yet. If you did, it would only be a rebound relationship, and they very rarely work out well.
Eventually, you will meet someone nice. These things all take time though.
So in the meantime, try to just enjoy life as much as you can and make it interesting and exciting every day. Your life can be whatever you want it to be. There are no limits to happiness. The only limit is your own imagination.
I hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): remove any emotion by going back and looking at things why you think they happened the way they did. How did you learn? What was a consequence? What was something positive from a situation and how could you improve? Reflecting for a brief time during a relationship recovery is crucial so that we dont carry issues forth to our next relationship. This way we can grow and mature and more importantly be able to focus on just the future as we apply what we have learned from previous mistakes, and successes. Good luck.
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