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*icey67
writes:I told my ex bf how he hurt me he said he loves me and misses me so I'm so stupid I practically begged him let's start over he rejected me and says he don't know about that after he cheated and I left him he tried to flip it on me what do I do? How do I let him go ?iam so hurt how do I move on after so much pain I know I'm never going to contact him again what do u do when love is gone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): Woman have some dignity plz. He doesn't deserve you.
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reader, blueangelvenom +, writes (1 September 2011):
If he truly loved you and missed you, he wouldn't have rejected you, non-the-less cheated on you in the first place. Don't think for one minute that it was your fault, or let him flip it on you, your not the one that cheated he did. Their is no easy way to let someone who you fall for go. It hurts, dear god does it hurt, but you try to live your life, you will change a few things, whether it be your hobbies, or the type of clothing you wear because it wont feel right anymore. But you have to go on. Take a vacation, do something that you always wanted to do, and think with him you would have never tried it before. Remember that you are stronger than you think, anyone who cheats on a faithful woman, doesn't deserve a women, I know its harsh but thats how you have to think. Just remember, love that was shall never be forgotten, it is not lost, nor are you condemned to never love again, for love itself cannot die, love will find you again, and when it does remember that one love ended begins a new journey to a love enduring, and everlasting. You will live and find a new love, all things come in due time, all you have to remember when it comes to your ex is it wasn't meant to be, but was a steping stone to one that is to be. I hope this helps a little at least.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 You change your phone number. Get a new email address and don't answer your door when he comes over. Eventually he'll get the hint and leave you alone and hopefully he has learned a valuable lesson on being faithful to someone who loves him.
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reader, thisonestaken  +, writes (1 September 2011):
first of all, youre NOT stupid, you love him and you were willing to do anything to stay with him/make it work. he, on the other hand is not doing this, hes rejecting you. AND he tried to put it on you (his cheating)because he refuses to own up for what he did. you had every right to be upset over his actions, and maybe you regret leaving? believe me, ive acted very irrationally when im hurt, angry, etc,whether thats right or wrong... lol a good guy would understand that, and if he was in any way sorry he would most certainly allow you to be hurt. by "flipping" the situation onto you he took away your right to your feelings so to speak, and replaced them with new ones im guessing confusion? more hurt? shock? EVEN IF, you two got back together, could you ever forgive him? be able to trust him again? if you are convinced hes out of your life...this is what i have done in the past: bawl my eyes out if i want to, do one small thing a day until i feel better ie; a hot bath, chocolate, a good movie, there is no time limit on the grieving, everyones different, dont let anyone tell you that you "should" be over it, dont listen to that. just take baby steps until youre feeling better, call a friend, keep writing in here! do whatever it takes to make YOU feel better, and everything will become clearer as time passes. stick to your guns if you dont want him back
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