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anonymous
writes:A few days a week I watch a friends kids while she works, as long as my schedule allows. her and the father of her kids (they're engaged) are going through a rough patch ... she cheated on him and he's slowly trying to trust her again. they are still together, and live in the same house, but he works away from home which helps with his space to think.I haven't been helping her out with the kids all too long, and before it I had only met her man briefly a couple times before. The first day I watched the kids, her bf showed up to do laundry ... and stuck around for 2hrs talking to me even though his laundry was done long before. I chalked it up to him just being friendly and wanting to get to know the person who would be watching his children. then, today, I received a text msg from him that made no sense (I think it may have been part of a convo he was having with someone else) ... the only way for that to happen would have been if he had a text message window open and ready to send something to me before hand. I asked what it meant and awhile later (he's working) he replied, asking how I liked his kids, how they were doing, and said soon I would be their other mom. I told him they were sweet kids and I enjoy looking after them. he then proceeded to ask if his gf was working tonight, and that was the part I found odd ... because he talks to her every night on the phone and already knows her schedule. even if he didn't, he could phone/text her and ask. his reply when I told him she had a couple days off was just "oh" Is it just me, or was he using it as an excuse to text me? (he got my # off facebook btw)a friend of mine said he sounds kind of interested, which isn't really something I want. she also said that because my sibling was the one his gf cheated with, that maybe he's going to try and make things even (which is ridiculous, but it would kind of make sense in a twisted way). I don't think I can continue helping my friend if that's the case, because it puts me in their house quite a bit and I would never want to hurt my friend. he's an attractive guy and I tend to trust too easily.so, is he just being friendly or is it something else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): I think you should heed caution as this guy could be looking to even the score. Stay true to your friend and maybe have a conversation w him that you do not want to be the third wheel in their relationship as nothing good can come out of it. Also if you enjoy watching those kids why should
They suffer. I think you should continue to watch them if you so wish and ur gf allows it.
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