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writes:I am dating this other guy,well he is 12 years older than me, he is great...he treats me well, and we started dating in January this year but the sad thing is he has a fiancée and they are living together, should i go on with this relationship?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 no you must end it.
he is with someone else and just using you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): You're not really dating him if he's living with and engaged to be married to someone else.
you're being used by him, is the more accurate description.
don't continue doing this because where is it going to lead to?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): He's cheating on his girl with you. What do you think of that girl? You aren't dating wake up.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 No you should end it. He's clearly not available to you so why should you share and compromise your own happiness? Find someone who is not attached. Good luck.
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reader, activeplay +, writes (1 September 2011):
 First, I really hate to hear about your situation but no! He acted once and he will go for another round once he is all yours. I know it is hard after you have already fallen, but you ARE going to save your self a lot of hurt and pain. Just trust me. I may have visited that lane by accident once!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): You are not dating him. He has a fiancee, you are just his bit on the side. Move on now. He treats women very badly.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 nah don't bother. he has proved he is a lying cheat with no morals or genuine care for other people. if you are hoping he will leave his fiancée for you, well, maybe he will maybe he won't.
if he doesn't want to leave her he will drop you when he gets bored.
if he does leave her for you, you will be the girlfriend of a love-cheat.
both scenarios are bad new for you. have some self respect and stop letting this man play with you. find a SINGLE man
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (1 September 2011):
That depends on what you want from a relationship. It also depends on the kind of person you want to be.
For your relationships, if you just want someone who treats you well, but that you understand that he is with another girl who he is not treating well by cheating on her with you, and that you understand he is in effect just using you for sex and to enjoy your company but will never give you a long term devoted relationship, that is fine. However, if you are ok with it, I would be wondering why you are ok with it considering that you are obviously settling for less, by having to share him with another woman who he is more committed to. You could have a relationship with someone who is devoted to you, who can be committed to you, and who isn't cheating on someone else by being with you.
For the kind of person you want to be, by being in this realtionship you know that you are part of a painful deception of another woman. You have to decide whether you want to be the kind of woman who doesn't mind hurting other people for her own interests. I know you are not responsible for her wellbeing, and you aren't the one who is in a relationship with her, he is, and he is responsible for his actions, but you still play a part by knowing what he is doing. You don't have to be that kind of person if you don't want to. The choices we make and don't make in life determine the kind of life we live, and the kind of person we become.
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