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writes:I'm in a friends-with-benefits relationship, but I want out. Any ideas on how I can go about this? I'm not sure how to just cut it off :\please help :) many thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Symon +, writes (5 March 2010):
 This isnt a gud situation to be in, i fell for my best freind and i ended up just having sex with her with no strings. It made me feel so sad deep down to know id slept with her and it just being meaningless. Just tell him how u feel about the situation but be confadent in urself when u do it and if he's any sort of decent guy at heart he'll understand, i know i would :) good luck! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): Just tell him straight, simple as that.
Dont let him talk you into one last time though, you will regret it
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reader, brigid.imagine  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Perhaps try telling him you feel like the situation you're in is stopping you from meeting other people, or preventing other guys from becoming close to you. Does it make you feel guilty?
Then, be friends with him, but don't go to see him alone. Because we both know what will happen!
But if you don't want to do it anymore, handle it just like you were breaking up with him: Sensitivity, honesty and clear communication. Be really clear with him, he has to know where the boundaries start. Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): I had the same issue. What I did was told him that I did not want this kind of friendship anymore. He took it well since there was no emotional connection.
If you dont want to do that or it does not work...just stop talking to him, stop seeing him(you know what I mean) and erase him from your phone contacts.
AND if that does not work change your number, block his calls, maybe tell him a different address.
Not that he is a stalker just sometimes the others dont work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Next time a meet is suggested, just say 'no thanks'. After a while he or she will get the message.
Or you could just have a frank talk with this person and say the arrangement is simply not working for you.
Simples!
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