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writes:How can I get him to tell me the truth?I think my husband is seeing/sleeping with someone he used to work with. I suspected this when he still worked with her and he stated they were just friends. I suspected more but he never admitted to it. Now I think he is still seeing her. He has late night hockey once a week and sometimes things are just not right. As well he has locked his phone, I cannot see cell bills, emails are deleted, hockey emails and responses were switched from home to work. I love him, have been with him for 21 years and married for 13.5 years. We have three children. How can I be sure he is telling me the truth? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): First off, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this and I hope, I pray that your suspicions are wrong. With that said...Go slow and don’t jump to any conclusions UNTIL you have proof. If he thinks you are on to him he will cover his tracks and it is possible you will never know the truth one way or the other. A key logger for your computer is a great idea. Some have a free trial period that may tell you all you need to know. It will also give you the password for his cell bill or email accounts so you can check that. A lot of people don’t agree with doing that, but this is your life and your children's. Get a babysitter and go to the hockey rink and see if his auto is there. Borrow someone’s car & follow him. AND remember even if your suspicions are correct it doesnt always mean it is the end of your marriage. I have been where you are.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Oh no! This doesn't sound good. There are several things you can do to confirm your suspicions. First, I would call up the hockey rink, and ask them what time they close during the week. Have you thought about surprising him on hockey night? Also, you could get a keylogger for your computer, to record all keystrokes. Is there any way you can get a copy of the phone bill? If all else fails, you may want to hire a private detective. That way you will have evidence of his affair that you can use against him in a divorce.
How late does he stay out on hockey nights and how long do you suspect he's been seeing this woman? Usually your gut feeling is right, so don't ignore it! Please keep us updated. Good luck!
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