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writes:So, I’ve started dating my best friend. We’ve been dating for almost 4 weeks now and he is lovely and cares about me and looks out for me and is such a gentleman but he’s still treating me like just a friend. He doesn’t hold my hand unless I hold his first and he only hugs me if I hug him first so you can imagine, we haven’t kissed yet. His mates all told me that if I kissed him of course he would join in but it is unlikely he is going to make a move. That would be fine but then there is still the issue that he doesn’t act like he is physically attracted to me! I don’t want to sound fussy but it would be nice if he showed the love occasionally without me having to first. I know that he had picked up on some tips from one of his best friends (who used to flirt with me a lot) and that seems to have a made a bit of a difference because now he flirts a bit more and can tease me (in a friendly way) which he wouldn’t do before but he really doesn’t seem to be able to physically show that he likes me. In the past, most guys would give me a hug whenever they felt like it or would tickle me or even play fight with me but my boyfriend is too careful with me! I know all guys are supposed to have a high sex drive and stuff so maybe he is just great at hiding that sort of thing and would probably love to hear that I want him to be more upfront about stuff but I don’t know what to do or say to get him to show the love a bit more?! Please help! Thank-you xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Well it sounds to me like he just isnt sure on what to do. You were both really good friends and while that is a great start to a relationship it is also difficult to get out of the friend zone and in to a romantic one. It could also be that he is just in experienced with this and isnt sure on how to act.
You know yourself you need to talk to him over this, i know it is not easy but just be truthful and honest with him, ask him to have a talk privately with you, and tell him that you know he cares about you and that you are happy but that sometimes you get the feeling that he only sees you as a friend and not a girlfriend. See if things improve after that. Good Luck Sweetie.
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