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writes:Ok first question on here......lolMy GF has a hairy vulva...and id prefer her to be shaven/waxed , How can i encourage her trim up?[Mod note: changed 'vagina' to 'vulva' for accuracy] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): If hints haven't worked, you just have to stop going down on her and wait for her to ask. When she asks you , just explain in the nicest possible way that you can't do it with the hair, that you tried your best to ignore that but you just can't. If its not worth that much to you, just accept the hair.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Well, since you shave or wax your own genitals, surely she has some idea that you might like no hair, or at least less hair?
"My sweet, I adore giving you oral pleasure soooo much. I was wondering if I could ask you to try something for a month? I sometimes on occasion find the amount of hair to be more of a mouthful than is comfortable. Would you mind if I gave you a little trim, while I'm waxing/shaving myself?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, The reason i feel i cant talk to her about this is because shes a very prideful person and i feel as tho if i bluntly say shes too hairy and its a turn off she would feel insecure about her self image.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 September 2010):
I agree with person12345, since your subtle hints aren't working, maybe it's time to speak plainly. Tell her that the hair is really off-putting for you for oral sex because of the way it bunches in your mouth. You aren't asking her to shave it all off, just trimming it down so there's not so much there.
Perhaps the next time you are grooming yourself, you could suggest to her that you'd be happy to trim her pubic hair for her.
Why is it you feel you can't talk to her about this?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 September 2010):
 If you already take care to groom down there, and subtle hints aren't working, you should try less subtle ways of asking. To sugarcoat it when you ask, you can say something like, I really want to give you oral sex, but it would be so much easier for me if you could trim the hair around the area.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advvice, but i have alrdy given the subtle hints, and nothing...And i do groom my self so thats out of the question. I dont care if she maintains some hair becuase of the itching and what not but like she wont even trim it down. Am i going at a lost cause?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): let her wax your Private parts, and if you are man enough not to scream in pain, then maybe she will (trim up)
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Yep, I'd keep shaved if somebody would pay for me to have it done professionally.. all the time, as hair constantly grows back and needs to be waxed all the time.
I like the idea of Tish, pay for all your girlfriends Salon visits, I'm sure she wouldn't have no problems with that. Staying shaved normally takes tons of time and it can hurt.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 September 2010):
Once you've waxed or shaved all your hair off, then you should just ask her to extend the same courtesy. She can always say no though, given that being shaved is a ton of maintenance and very itchy. And waxing is horrendously painful. But if you're willing to try it, she'd be a lot more willing to do it I guarantee you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 September 2010):
Easy! Shave or wax your own genitals! Then tell her you like less hair rather than more, and are conducting an experiment. Then after a week, if you aren't scratching and covered with red lumps, I'm sure you'll be a great ambassador for shaving or waxing!
You could then buy her a gift certificate for the salon and give that as a surprise gift. Not having to pay for it and having it done by a professional will eliminate some potential stumbling blocks for her.
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Always praise the positive first. Tell her how hot she already is. Compliment what you love about her netherlands (lol). Then, maybe drop an innocent hint, "God, I wonder what you'd look like shaven... Mmm, I'd love that..." Don't give her time to respond. Just kiss her and go about your business. You've planted a seed and you will need to wait to observe if it grows. She might surprise you and do it.
If she doesn't, try another subtle hint or maybe try showering with her and see if she'd let you shave her legs, to start. Then progressively see if she let you do more. Reaffirm how beautiful and sexy she is, but also how sexy being hair free is to you. If this doesn't work, talk to her. Tell her straight up in a polite manner. Tell her how much more you might like going down on her if she were hair free. That sometimes works. ;-)
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