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writes: What do I do now,I want my ex back? I was dating a guy for almost 2 years(he always had commitment issues brought on by being hurt before) He also has a son who I have grown to love, the baby was born when we just started dating, The guy was the first person I slept with and the first I alowed myself to really develope feelings for. I really love him we talked, hung out, understood each others moods and only ever fought about not spending enough time together, he even told my mother that he was inlove with me, he went overseas and emailed me everyday, asked me to go into business with him, we went out with his parents and mine. he wrote me a card outlining everything he loved about me and y he feels so happy to be with me, and called us lovers and friends always and forever. but then he decided he doesnt wanna be tied down nemore and broke up with me, he says he loves me and has never been with anyone for so long,he misses me all the time and loves spending time with me he just doesnt feel like a relationship is right for him right nowwe broke up a month ago and decided to meet up again in Nov to see how we feel , meanwhile we both seeing other ppl to re-evaluate our feelings.he has phoned me to see how Im doing(his friend says its so I kno he still cares and hasnt forgotten me) he has sent msgs after seeing me around to say I looked nice or say hi.when his mom got sick he told me and I sent him a msg to tell him Im here and he thanked me for caring like 3 times. But the other day I saw him with his new fling (b4 his mom got sick) and I want to know how I know if there is any hope for us in the future at all. I love him and kno he is stressed out with feeling trapped with his mom, the baby , the baby's mom(he is having legal issues with guardianship of his son) and his new friends and their party mentality. How do I get him back or is it pointless
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reader, Angel_Kitty +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Look, somtimes it's just not ment to work out. I really think you 2 would be better off as friends, cus this sound's like it's just to much stress for the both of you. I know you want him back now, but think about how you'll feel when you get him back. look ahed onto the future. and take his feeling's onto consideration to. he might not want you to be his girlfriend. he may just be being friendly and nice. I'm sure he still want's to spend time with you, but maybe just as friends.
Hope this helps,
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reader, jack23 +, writes (8 September 2006):
 I can relate to alot of what of what you have said, but from the male side. If he truely loved you as much as he keeps saying he wouldnt put you through this heart ache and pain. Whos to say that if he did get back with you, that he wouldnt just decide to do the same further down the line.
I believe that he is trying to get away with being able to do what he wants and then have the comfort of knowing he can always come back to you whenever it suits him. Dont let him treat you like that, he doesnt deserve you.
But if you want him back ... I think that most blokes decide to do stupid things like this when they have got everything to easy and need a challenge/adventure. If you want to find out if he does have any feelings for you and if he would get back with you, this is what I suggest. Tell him that you have found someone else and that you dont think getting back together would work (always makes my heart skip a beat!). Then you need to remember to not let him get away with everything, and play a lil hard to get and when in a relationship dont make everything too easy, keep him on his toes. This is just a suggestion that I know would work with most blokes but is not guaranteed, but then if he does love you im sure he couldnt deal with losing you forever.
I hope this information is of some help, tho I am sure that you can feel in your heart what the right thing to do is. Good luck :)
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