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writes:My boyfriend is very uptight in bed, but he doesnt mind me being open and I always lead him. Sometimes he just doesnt wanna have sex, but i always force him because we are not always together.... Sometimes I worry that he will think i am a whore, because Im experienced with sex and I make screams and groaning when he is inside me, because it feels so great..... One day I masturbated in front of him, because he refused when i asked him to play with me so that i can come....Now i fear how must he have taken it, even though he never expressed how he felt, but later he made a joke that the previous night since he was feeling sickish made him not being give it to me... and he was teasing me and saying "someone did not get it yesterday" but we both laughed about it.. Can someone advise me on how to make my boyfriend to be a liberal in bed. I can see him trying most of the times, but i also can tell its not his style he is just doing things to satisfy me....Another thing is that he is 10 years older than me. I am scared that he can walk away from me or thinks that I am only about sex... I LOVE HIM TO BITS AND SEX WITH HIM IS ALSO GOOD.... MY FEAR IS THAT I MIGHT BE TOO MUCH FOR HIM....
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reader, penta  +, writes (14 May 2007):
 You won't do anything overnight. Take it slowly, a little at a time. When he gets used to that, take it a little further. If you go too fast you'll push him away.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (14 May 2007):
 You just have to talk to him about this. I'm sure he doesn't think you're a whore, we all have differing tastes about what we like in bed, you just have to find someone who enjoys things similar to your or someone who is willing to be open-minded and try stuff.
Talk to him and find out how he actually feels. He may enjoy you leading him, he may just be shy and need some encouragement. You never know with these things until you talk them over: you might have got him all wrong - he might be loving this!
If he doesn't like what you do it bed, try and compromise if you feel you want to work it out. If not, maybe try finding someone who is more like you and wants what you want, as you'll only end up going elsewhere for what you enjoy if you don't sort this.
Good luck xxx
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