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*XBeccaTxX
writes:I'm in love with him sooooooo much. And now that things have settled down since he dumped me i know if i asked him out he would say yes. But there are 2 issues...1.If people ever found out,because we have been out before and of the rumours we would be teased and he would dump me...2. I take how close we are to each other VERY SERIOUSLY. And when we go out he does'nt realise that i want a serious relationship...not just a snog and an "i love you" that does'nt last...I know he likes me because he's one of my sort of "best friends" although we don't like to admitt it because we would get teased.My questions:How can i get him to realise how much i love him and that it does'nt matter that we get teased?HOW CAN I GTE HIM TO REALISE I WANT A MATURE RELATIONSHIP?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dr. Strangelove  +, writes (13 April 2008):
He is between 13 and 15? There is no possibility for a mature relationship. I am pretty sure he wants to have fun....serious relationships can be very scary to teenage boys. Don't focus on relationships and love, focus on spending time together, laughing, and enjoying each others company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): hmm...you could try talking about mature things like babies and marrage. even if you don't care about those things it will wake him up a bit and get him to realise your being serious.
however he might react badly to this and dump you so be careful!
Good luck!
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reader, MissKin +, writes (13 April 2008):
 It's okay to make him realise YOU want a mature relationship, but how do you know he does?
If the teasing is affecting him so much then he's obviously not grown up enough to handle a mature relationship and you can't push him into things that 'last' if he's not up for it and if he's not willing to ignore what people say to make it work.
You both need to stop being so concerned about what other people say, but he needs to get over this on his own - all you really do is tell him how much you don't care if you get teased and how much it doesn't matter, but in the end he's going to have to over come this on his own.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 well hun i dont get the guy why the hell should he care even if you guys are teased in school..he is being teased with one of his best girl friends or rather the person he likes the most not some bitch right..so you should first ask him to grow up he seems very immature..have u ever confronted him and told him how much u love him??if yes then he should acccept u and the fact of the whole teasing thing..a person will not realise anothr persons love unless and until you show it to them..so be more clear in your actions..and teenage boys dont want a mature relationship most of them, so take it slow..DONT RUSH UP TO HIM AND SAY I LOVE YOU I WANT MATURE RELATIONSHIP YOU WILL SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF HIM..as i said take it slow and hope fo the best//all the best!!hpng all goes well
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