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writes:Hi everybody, I need some help from you guy. Me and my boyfiend is going to break up. This is a long story, me and him have been together for 2 years and our relationship have been very weird and iam sure is not normal. We have been arguing right after 3 months dating and on and on.It seems never stop, we tried to break up so many times but finally we just can. Last year he told me that he will never marry me and will live this place this year, i very disappointed and decided to give up, not seeing him any more but I just could not do it. But every time when we meet each other, i just think about his leaving and i feel really sad and upset and that causes aguements. He is a very nice man, and he cares about me a lot, but he just doesnt know what to do about leaving. And me too, I dont know what to do about this. we have been arguing a lot lately and because of me, every time when i see him, i just feel so upset and sad and i just shout at him for no reason. I love him so much and Iam afraid to loose him but I dont know why iam pushing him so far far away.I dont know what to doPlease help me, I just feel so horrible now, sad, depressed, upset, worry, tired, lost ......
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 theres a deeper unjderlying issue at hand than just the arguments it seems. rguments never just start for no reaon, perhaps ur stressed out, or it coulds easily be a hormonal imbalance whichcan easily be rectified. maybe ur feeling some hiden resentment and ur not being clear with him about it. theres many reasns but, one thing for sure. he was seriously into u if he said he would not marry u because of the arguments etc.u dont have much time o fix things, truth e told, usually when a guy has serious doubts about cmmitting long term, its hard to chang the situation after. guys HATE,HATE arguments. and especially when they are thinking long term with a girl they have fallen for, they start to think about the far future and what it will entail if kids become part of the relationship, etc. he needs a teamplayer, a girl who will be therre to hold strong the homefront when hes absent and in the hardships be there tosupport hlf the burden. hes thinking if ur crumbling away right now over stupid silly things, how will u react when u both are in the lowtimes, or wrse, rokbottom? trust me. this is what hes thinking. so u need to toughen up take ur licking and stop arguing etc.he needs u tobe his teammate not hios foe. otherwise, be prepared for him to walk out guaranteed.
he wants to see a trooper, girl who will walk with him in life and fiht the battles with him, not leave him in the dirt and argue and all while the homfront crumbles. i hope u will consider what im saying with seriousness i hope u cn alvage ur relationship in time. bt u the one whos going to be doing all the work. u will need to show himvisual evidence ur not the same person, that ur reliable etc. if u hae any futher questions ec dont hesiate to write me privately, im always here to talk to. good luck my dear....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Maybe you are pushing him away because you are scared of him leaving anyway so you get all worked up inside hunny, Im going to send you a self esteem link that will help with lots of confidence issues and relationship stuff as well..I think you need to take one day at a time and think about when these arguments started a why hunny there may be a pattern to them..It all may have started because of something said that worried you and you cant seem to explain because you dont understand yourself, When we argue we sometimes forget how the argument started and what it started for.......
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
http://ezinearticles.com/?Successful-Relationship-Tips-to-Stop-Defensive-Arguments&id=664930
I dont no if this last link will help hunny but its worth a try...HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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