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writes:I have been with this guy for 3 months it is like we have known each other in a past life. He told me he loves me but how do I know he means it from his heart? He was with this person for 9 years, she passed away about 9 months ago.. before me there was another girl that he was with for about 8 months he cheated on the dying girl with thaT One.. I love him with everything.. but does he really love me? How can I get him to open his heart and really love me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): If he cheated on his dying girlfriend he has no heart to open.
Is it me? isn't this blaringly obvious?
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reader, ShanL +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Talk it out with him and get him to get out any bottled up feelings towards the "dying lady" and the other woman. That's about it get him to express himself and too it's been 3 months and maybe he has a guard up for the things he did to other women. Talk it over with him and then pray about it ask God for guidance in this relationship. I'm not trying to say just beause it's been 3 months that he's just saying he love you for sex.....etc, cause I'd be lying!!!! BUT IT'S PROBABLY JUST A GUARD & TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM PRAY & TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT!!!!
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Be careful that it isn't rebound! If he cheated on the 9 year relationship ( a dying girl at that) with another one, whom he just got rid of......well it seems to me this man has some really big problems.
It might be best that you walk away from this. When he figures out what he really wants chances are you might not be it!
In event that you are, be warned that he already cheated on someone he was in a realationship with, it could happen to you!
LOVE IS BLIND They say but we don't have to ACT THE FOOL! Be wise and worry less about him opening up to love you, allow him to let his love go freely to the one he will be honest and faithful too. If he chooses you then fine if not you will be better off for letting him make the choice and showing you who he really is inside and what he really wants in a realtionship with you.
MOVE SLOWLY if you stay with him and watch for ANY RED FLAGS
that might indicate he isn't the man you think he is. If you read your message again you already feel like you have known him in a past life...but does he? Even if he says it, that doesn't make it so! Instead of letting your love flow like a MOUNTAIN STREAM.....slow it down to the TRICKLE OF CREEK until you know that he is for real.
After all hon I was seeing red flags popping up from the line that said CHEATING ON A DYING GIRL! Please consider this extremely thoughtless act. You love and efforts may be best saved for someone else who won't put ther selfish needs ahead of their own. Unless he changes or has changed he won't be the man to stick with you and see you through the tough times that come with any relationship.
Walk softly and diligently with caution and protect your heart in case he turns out to be in love with someone else..............like HIMSELF!
MY BEST to you on Christmas and I PRAY that YOU recieve YOUR HEARTS DESIRE.
JUST BE CAREFULL IN CHOOSING WHAT IT REALLY IS BECAUSE SOMETIMES YOU REALLY GET WHAT YOU ARE ASKING FOR AND IT TURNS OUT NOT TO BE WORTH THE WAIT!
God Bless,
Blue_Amgel
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 I Can tell you you cant make someone love you either they do or they dont and you really cant make them open up.. its something that just happens..You will drive yourself crazy trying ..And if its only been 9 months that she passed away its probably going to take sometime for him to get over her .Loosing someone is bad enough without loosing them to death. So be patient with him if it is mean to be it will come and I wish you good luck with him but be real patient give him time to deal with her death .....
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