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writes:Dear Cupid,I have a lover which I have had for 25 years, he is married to another woman, and has 3 boys with her, I have 1 son with him. I moved away from him many years ago when my son was 3, he is now 20. We have had a relationship on and off for about that amount of time. I saw him the other day and he is 49 and does not have the same sexual drive as he used too. He says his wife does not want to have sex at all but I still do. He has gained a lot of weight. He used to be so active before. He came in about 2 seconds of me giving him a blow job. And me nothing. What can I do and what is his problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): I guess the question that I have to ask is why have you allowed yourself to be in this dead end relationship for so long? It sounds like he comes to you for what his wife doesn't give him. I can understand how someone allows him/herself to get caught up in a fling with a married person, but I don't understand how it can go on for so long. Is he the only lover that you have had in all this time? If so, I think you should look for someone single who you can have a real relationship with.
As to why he is as you describe, I agree with AndreC. If he has not had sex for a while then he will get aroused quickly and have an orgasm quickly. He has also gained so much weight because he is bored with his life and doesn't care about how he looks or feels.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Leave him alone and find a single man without that problem.
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reader, AndreC. +, writes (12 July 2009):
 The more he gets it the longer he'll last men tend to do this after not getting it for awhile ask him to masterbate a few hours before sex this way when the time arrives he won't reach his peek so fast. He just a got a little over excited that's all.
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