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writes:I have been married for the past 7 years. My husband cheated on me and left me briefly for another women. While he was off cheating i started a relationship with an old friend that i've alway had feelings for. Then my husband came back into the picture and wanted to work our relationship out. The problem is i'm pregnant (by the other guy) i told my husband and he thinks the baby is his, but its not. I care for both men, but haven't told my bf that i'm pregnant. what should i do? half of me wants to leave things as they are and just let my husband think the baby is his and raise it, the other half wants to tell my bf because he does have the right to know, but i have no idea how he's gonna react to the whole situation?? I'm so confused, please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Telling the truth about paternity is not an optional thing.
You have no right to stick a man with 20 years of child raising and financial support just because you think he'd make a better father than the real one. If your husband wants to raise this child that would be good outcome. But it's his life too and it's his right to decide.
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reader, tux +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Personally, I would say you need to leave your husband and be with the other guy you care about, especially if he is in fact as you say is definitely the father. I have no sympathy for your husband because he decided to leave you for another woman and when that relationship ended, he is just going back to his insurance girl(you). I have my doubts that he will not stray again. But then that advice gets more dicier if you were having sex with both men and either can be the father..
This is personally just my take on the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I think that you need to tell your boyfriend and your husband about the situation. You and your husband were broken up so he can't get mad in my opinion. He may be hurt though. Let the other guy be in the child's life and continue to be with your husband if that's your choice. Good luck!
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reader, angelsrock18 +, writes (12 July 2009):
 i think you need to tell you're "boyfriend", because if you are thinking it's his baby he NEEDS to know, find out who's baby it is, (take DNA tests)and then get back to them about it, it doesn't matter who's baby it is, just stay with whoever you love, but the father still needs to have a part in the child's life if you're not with them..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): You have to be honest, you can't live a lie, you'd go crazy and its unfair.
Good luck and I hope it all works out x
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