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*lliehoff
writes:My best guy friend and I are both 16.Have been friends for alittle over a year now.We're extremly close,and dont get me wrong,I love to spoil my friends.But everytime we go out I pay for the food,movies,everything! He always says how much he appreciates me,I even give him a ton of gas money.Then on top of all that he likes to get really touchy feely and for me to give him head.But he tells me he doesnt like me in a sexual way,and afterwards he just ignores me.There's this other boy,He is really nice to me,and wants to meet my parents next week and for us to hang out.But Im always comparing him to my best guy friend,and always seems that he doesnt measure up,even though my best guy friend takes me for granet.How can I get him to appreciate me and really understand how much I do care about him and how much he is hurting me deep down inside.I dont want to lose him.Is there reasons as to why Im such a push over? It is almost impossible for me to be mean to people,I am always constantly putting others before myself.Please message me.I would really like to have someone to talk to.
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reader, red1982  +, writes (28 December 2007):
It sounds like you are a very nice caring person, and this guy is a jerk who is taking advantage of that. My advice to you is to tell him that next time you two go out together tell him that he is going to have to pay for his share. And stop being intimate with him. I don't think his feelings will develop into anything romantic for you and this may well end up making you feel worthless and used.It does sound like you are in love with this guy from what you've said and I think that you should distance yourself from him a bit, and socialise more with your other friends. Still see him but not as often and hopefully you'll realise that true friends don't take advantage of you in this way. All the while that you are 'best friends' with this guy you won't meet anyone who will treat you properly as like you say they don't match up to him. I don't think that you should start dating this other boy as you aren't over this other guy yet and it wouldn't work very well. You can't date one person whilst pining for another - I know that from experience. I wish you luck, please keep us updated with how you're doing.
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reader, KerrieeeJayne +, writes (28 December 2007):
well this is abit odd i must say ...
the reason your being such a push over is because your too head over heels with this guy...yes you may think he's amazing but he doesnt really sound like a particulaly nice person..you seem to be blinded by lust
you have to look past the face sometimes..there are plenty more guys out there and one that will be perfect for you, you just dont know it yet..
you shouldnt always put people before yourself
though this does show how much of a caring person you are,it can just get you extremly down ...treat yourself ..buy yourself something nice ..get a new hair cut that always makes me feel better hehe
try spending more time with your girl friends
they always make me feel better when im on a low
good luck guy hunting :)
have some fun girl
your only 16 you have a life to live :)
kerrie
xxx
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