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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my bf broke a week ago and we were together for 2 years! Im heartbroken to say the least. When we broke up he said he hopes before summer is over we can get some lunch together. but why? and we didnt talk until I texted him three days ago just saying hi and asking how he was. he said good and then asked me and i said good, i miss you. he didnt text back so i texted him saying im sorry i shouldnt have said that, i understand its too early and he can talk to me when hes ready. He immediately got defensive and thought i was trying to get back together when all i said was hey how are you. it hurts alot the way he talked to me when i didnt do anything, so then i emailed him saying so nicely that i was sorry and i didnt mean for the text to come off the way he thought. we broke up because we were bickering too much other than that we were great for each other. Last year he did the same thing, we broke up he was mad, didnt talk and wanted me back a month later.I just want to prove to him that we can fix this and it will work but how do i do that if we're not talking and everyone is telling me to not talk to him until he talks to me. but a part of me doesnt want to wait because maybe he just doesnt want to be the first to say something and i dont mind doing that. the only thing is, is that i dont want to push him away, i want to bring him closer Why is he acting like this?and When is he going to realize what he lost, because I know he will! not to be cocky but im an amazing gf and i pretty and id do anything for him. and will he ever come back? I want him back more than anyone can ever believe, and i know alot of you are going to say hes a jerk and blah blah blah but when we are good, we are amazing! we just have rough patches (like every relationship)what do you guys think or feel during a breakup (not a bad breakup)?a part of me thinks he got scared that the pattern wasnt going to stop so the easiest thing to do is run the other way. i know we can fix it but i dont want to talk to him again and look desperate or like im begging for him back.Is there anything I can do? Guys, can I tell him anything that will help him realize we should be together?
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Many people have told me that in order for a relationship to last, a man has to love his woman more than she loves him. Because men are not as consistent and devoted as women are. A woman can get used to her man, but a man will look elsewhere if he is not completely in love with his woman.
As a woman, the most important thing for me is to be loved and treasured. If a man does not do that I walk away because no matter how much I feel for him, I will not be happy in the long run.
It hurts when someone you love doesn't return the feelings back, but you can't force someone to feel for you, even if you feel so much for them.
There is also a saying: "If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with." I believe this saying to be true. When you love someone the first thing you should want is for that person to be happy, even if it's not with you. It's a very hard thing to put in practice, but if you do that you will realize that you did the right thing.
Every person deserves to be loved, and if you are not getting it, why be with that person?
If he did love you, he wouldn't be able to stay away from you, no matter how much he tries.
Be strong and think of what is best for him. If he thinks that being with you is not the best thing for him, then let him go. You deserve someone who thinks you are the greatest thing that could ever have happened to them.
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