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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 17 years old and have been going out with a girl for 2 months which is lovely and i love spending time with her and i think shes great. BUT all we have ever done is kiss on the lips. She's a bit shy and a never takes the lead on anythiing. For example i start holding her hands and lean in for a kiss. But how do I get her to firstly snog and more? What do i have to do?
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 You can try stuff out, like, if your alone somewhere and kissing you could try putting your hands under her top, don't go straight for the breasts, but you can move up slowly unless it makes her feel uncomfertable.
You have to be respectful and be patient.
It could be that she is too shy to make further moves and if you find out that this is the case, like she wants to but isn't sure about you, then ask her to do a bit.
But your still young, so it's completly normal if she just isn't ready.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): it sounds to me as though she isnt ready to go any further.. which is ok. 2 months isnt really that long, and some girls think its too soon to go further than kissing. it could be a number of things, maybe she hasnt done anything more before and is nervous, or maybe she wants to take it further but isnt sure how you feel and doesnt want to come across as easy. either way, i think you should try talking to her. if the relationship is as good as you say, then you should be mature enough to talk about this stuff. just mention that you'd like to take it further and is she comfortable with this? perhaps she's waiting for you to make the first move? you have to know her enough to feel comfortable with talking openly and honestly about anything to do with sex - so on the whole i would say talk to her about it before anything else. good luck!
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