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*ittleHelper16
writes:Hello everyone, I'm 15 and I love to flirt. But I'm used to the kinda I guess slutty flirting and wearing things that show off my body but there's this guy I saw at chruch that I really wanna get to know and I don't wanna be like that in chruch and this guy is also the pastor's son so I need to be on my best behavior. Any suggestions on what I should wear and how to make my flirting good but not over the top??? Tips and advice would be greatly appericated. thanks
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reader, LittleHelper16 +, writes (11 November 2008):
LittleHelper16 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks to you both :D
Irish49 your I'm going to try to go with your advice all the way ... I am petty shy so maybe it might work and I'll try to be myself and stuff too . thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Well, there are certainly 'nice, respectable' ways to flirt. And you are so right, when you say, you don't want to do the bold, slutty flirting thing. That type of behavior makes a girl look desperate, needy and a big tease. And this sort of thing does turn off most guys...it givces them the wrong message. And this guy from church, might appreciate a more subtle approach.
The best thing I can tell you, is to be classy. Smile and say hello to him with confidence and a true, positive zest for life. When you do this, it's very important that you make direct eye contact (no winking!) Sometimes, while talking and smiling, it's very charming to most guys, when you lower your eyes, ever so coyly. But just do this occasionally. I remember one guy, who fell absolutely in love with this female he met. He loved that she smiled, but had this mysterious quieter, shy side to her and she blushed, shamelessly, whenever he spoke to her. She would lower her eyes and blush...turn red. I have to admit, I had watched them converse once, and she had him 'eating out of her hand' and she didn't even realize it...lol He ended up marrying her and 30 years later...still married and going strong.
But...if doing this is not your style. Then just be happy and let him see that. Don't over flatter but take a genuine interest in who he is and what he likes. Get him talking. Ask questions and be interested in what he says. Sometimes, body language is sexy. Playing with a strand of hair, touching your neck, lightly, don't cross your arms, be totally relaxed and 'smile'. Smiling makes other feel comfortable and they will fuind you approachable. Amazing what a confident, bright smile will do.
As for dressing the part...go pretty and feminine. Nothing too revealing but something that shows your curves. (not skin tight) A pretty flouncy dress, in soft colors, medium length....go easy on the make up..be as natural as possible. Soft muted shades...nothing bright or garish.
There you have it. Just my opinions here. Hope this works for you. Good luck and have a blast.
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reader, wickyricky  +, writes (11 November 2008):
hey well it looks like u picked the best fella to want to go with a tricky 1 well to be honest be your self just do what u normally wud do becauce if if dosnt like u 4 being you then your wasting ur time if the fella u like likes you thats because ur being u .do u no what i mean nomatter who u want to go with u shud never change the way u dress or act just be your self you will get more respect that way and if sum 1 dosnt like u thats there problem. in life you live once so if u want something go 4 it just ask him out its only going to be yes or no there are plenty of fellas out there ..back to the question go up to the fella as ur self and just say listen i like you and want to get to no you more ..and just ask him what he thinks ..good luck let me no what hapens
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