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writes: My sister (who's 5) was being abuse my dad (now in jail) (my mom died 2 years ago). When I was growing up my dad (or mom) never laid a hand on me not sure what chance when I move out. I really had no choice but to her take in. Ever since my sister is afraid I might do what my dad did. I did take her to therapy but I felt it was too Intense for a five year old so I took her out (and got my money back). At school she not getting along with the boys she keeps her distance from them (that what her teacher said) but she is getting along with the girls. Help. What should I do about my sister?
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Poor girl. You are a wonderful brother to be so concerned. Let her know that what happened to her is not her fault. Absolutely find a therapist who knows about this. Check at different websites to find the right help. There are a ton of sites if you run a search about sexual abuse with children.
Tell her she can talk to you about this if its possible. Is there any mother figure in her life and yours? Loosing your mother is also very traumatic. You must as well be going though a lot of pain. I hope you are getting help as well.
She needs to learn how to trust again and that isn't going to be easy. Abandonment fears might always be a problem. Also you might want to go to some sessions with her so she has someone to feel safe with and not all alone with a stranger. I feel for the both of you. I hope you both find someone very wise to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Find her another therapist who deals in pediatrics. This little girl needs the help of a professional! The abuse will follow throughout her life and effect every aspect! She is young enough that hopefully with a competent pediatic therapist, she can move on to live a normal life. As she ages she will probably supress the memories, but they will always be in her subconscious, and will Not just go away! Get her the help she needs!
Good Luck
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reader, wickyricky  +, writes (11 November 2008):
your sister is young and confused it will take time for her to build up trust with males agin just think it takes time to build trust withany 1 just give her time and spend time with her your self and as time goes on bring 1 of your male friends to the house for a short period of time and increase the visiting time so your sister get to ulid trust up with other males then bring more that 1 round to the house .i no it might be hard for you as you friends probely wont no what hapened to your sister so if u have a best m8 you can tell that would be brilliant ..i hope things work out for you it will take time even as long as 1 year for you to see a change but just be pasiant ..good luck
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (11 November 2008):
 She needs therapy. She needs to deal with these issues. If she does not deal with them now they will manifest themselves into seriously destructive behaviors when she is older. This is a terrible thing to happen to anyone, especially a child. It is also outside your power to fix this for her, you need a professional who is schooled in this type of thing. Please, for her sake get this beautiful young girl the therapy she needs to live a happy and "normal" life!!
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