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writes:my b/f told me he have been cheating but does not want to give me details. all he is telling me is to take it easy and relax for now. because i have been stress about our relationship and lately it reach a peak where it affected my physical health, till i have to end by the doctor.he tells me when i am in a balance emotional state. but the fact he told me he have been with a other female that is making me think and more think. its like i want to know what was going on.he did it when i just came off of sick leave because of cancer. every time he get frustrated he always do stupid things like this. when we did just start off dating i told him basically to go to hell, the next day he had a friend visit him at work and through his frustration kiss her. now because he is frustrating agian he went and have sex this time with a female. how am i suppose to deal with that? what i'm i suppose to do. i suspect it was a woman before he tell me he was fooling around. he said it not is usual thing because his parents divorce because his dad cheating and abuse his mother so he doesn't want to go down that road. yet he did it to me. he said he feel real frustrated and his mind went blank so he didi it... the problem it is stressing me a lot but i want to know whats happening. i love him, dissapointed yes and piss at him for doing it. how can i feel this way yet still want to be with him? what is stressing me is he is not telling me but yet we have to go away together in a month time for me to get therapy. i told not to pity me because i am sick.he don't want to have sex with me, all he is telling me i don't know what he didi yet i want to have sex with him. he told me to just take our relationship slow don't just want to rush back in as yet because i don't know what he did. he gets frustrated and stress easily, how do i deal with this? the main fact i know its a female my emotions have calm down because my mind already went over what happen what aint happen between him and the lady so its okay. i am in a calm state of mind to take whatever he have to say yet he dont believe me cause he see me get sick and have to bring me home from work and take me to the hospital. i just want to deal with it before i go do therapy the suspense is always lingering of what happen.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 I can't understand what he is getting out of telling you he has cheated on you. You are ill and it's the last thing you should be knowing. I don't know why you want to be with him, you need to get concentrating on your treatment/therapy and get yourself up to peak with your health. have you no family or close friend to support you through these trying times. Is it so important at this moment in time to get to know all the details. If you can't let him go you could save that question for when y ou are much stronger otherwise you could get weaker because y ou are so upset with this insensitive man.
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