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writes:me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now , we were best friends for two years before he finally asked me out , just before he asked me out i found that he had like around 50 chicks sending him nude pictures and he was playing all of them , after i made sure he deleted them i agreed to go out with him ,he didnt talk to any girls for about 10 months but i recently found out that he made a separate msn and a my yearbook or what ever its called and was living some what of a double life because none of the other women he was talking to knew he was dating me when i first confronted him he tried to deny it , i had proof that he was doing it and lying to me as well as watching porn on a regular basis when he would tell me he was going to sleep . i tried to break up with him but he wouldn't let me end it . we took a break for a few days but this was right before Christmas so we still had dinners to go to together and stuff,i took him back cause hes really all i have in life , i live by the quote "once a cheater always a cheater" i really want to forgive and move past this , it makes me feel sick tho when ever he gos to touch me . any suggestions on what to do ? or how to fix it if you think i should?
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reader, ForeverDawn  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Don't try to fix anything leave things as they are and just slowly start to walk away guys like this never really change and I don't think you want to be with someone that in the back of your mind you'll always know is cheating I know how it feels to think someone is your life I'm not going to tell you is easy because is not is heartbreaking and very difficult but you just have to be strong and open eyes realize that you can do better!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
I don't think you should try to fix it at all. He was speaking to a load of other women before he met with you, he played you, then he said he'd deleted it all, then it turned out he hadn't. He wont change, but you can be sure he will hurt you again and lie to you again. You can do much better with him, so dump him and end contact.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (4 January 2010):
Oh honey. I'm so sorry. That's brutal. But he did it once, then he promised not to... then he did it again. You aren't going to change him. He's not emotionally mature enough to be faithful to you.
He cheated, he lied, he got caught.... he did it again. That is just plain and simply unacceptable. He doesn't get to do that AND be with you. He isn't ALL you have. Baby doll, you have YOU. You have your own self respect.
Don't TRY to break up with him. Just take a deep breath, remember you deserve better and BREAK UP with him. Just do it. That's the only way to move past it, as you say. Get rid of him. That's how you fix it.
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