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writes:Last month my girlfriend and I broke up for reasons that were better for both of us. She said maybe in the near future things could work out so I just had to accept it. I know I can't force her into anything. Now recently, she's been putting a photo of a 6ish year old boy on her blackberry, like how she used to put photos of me when I was young when we were dating. Its an old photo, so I know the boy would be my age-ish by now. I just need to know if she got a new boyfriend. I know the only way to find out is to ask but I don't want to seem paranoid and stupid but its REALLY goin on and on in my head. I don't know what to do. Shall I ask her friends? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Please any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): why would you want to know? personally, when ive broken up with someone, depending on the situation. i cut all contact until ive got complete closure. it sounds harsh but its the easiest way. that way you can get on with your life and not dwell on unimportant stuff like who your ex might be dating. focus on someone else.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 April 2011):
Chances are she's got a boyfriend. I guess you are worried because you are waiting that "near future" where you maybe can be together again. I guess you have to move on right now.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 April 2011):
I'll level with you - your behaviour is starting to get a bit stalkerish. I wouldn't even risk talking about this, for two reasons.
1 - It's none of your business, and no one will give you a straight answer.
2 - You'll slip into stalker mode and wind up with a court order telling you to stay away.
You need to start accepting she has gone, and move on from her. I you don't, you'll end up being labelled as a weirdo/stalker/harasser etc.
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