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*shley-Pie
writes:My boyfriend says he'd really like it if i did some type of dance for him like a strip tease, but i have no idea what i should do. I feel really embarrassed and put it off all the time and tell him i'll do it another time. I told him i feel embarrassed and he said i shouldn't and did what all good boyfriends do by complimenting me. But i still can't seem to get the confidence to do it for him, and even when i feel like i could, i still have no idea how to dance!Does anyone have any ideas on what i can do to make me feel more confident and moves that i can do?
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reader, Ashley-Pie +, writes (9 June 2009):
Ashley-Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow that was what I was looking for!
I like your ideas and I can actually see myself doing them, which I suppose is a good sign..
My other worry is that I don't know if he'll be all involved. I know, I worry too much! :)
I suppose I'll just have to practise, think about it lots and let go of my fears.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Anyone got any idea for songs?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Speaking as someone who worked in a strip club for a small stint of time (as a DJ, but I did a little dancing here and there), the best advice I can give you is to A) take a class, B) go into things ready to feel silly... a good attitude and sense of humor will keep you in the right place, C) pick a song that makes you feel like the sexiest lady in the universe and lastly D) practice in front of a mirror. Practice makes perfect!!
Get some key moves DOWN that you feel comfortable and confidant with. Then, as long as you're grooving and taking off clothes, your fella will be thrilled. And remember, it is most important for YOU to feel sexy and for you to not get bogged down with insecurities... you already know that your fella thinks you're gorgeous and amazing! So don't fret. Don't worry about doing things "wrong"...
Also, don't have too much to take off. Make sure that your shirt is easy to take off - ones that tie in the front are fantastic, or a button down. Skip the pants, MAYBE a skirt that you can slip over your hips... let it fall to the floor and then step out of it - hiking it down, lifting your knees up to get out - not the sexiest move. Or just skip the skirt all together. Heels and fishnets, maybe a garter belt if you're feeling extra edgy. They can all stay on... Take your time with each thing you take off - THAT after all, is the show. After you take off each piece of clothing, tease him a little.
And, don't let him touch you!! That drives them crazy.
I found a website that is great - check it out if you want extra hints. Also, you might want to go online to YouTube or even an adult site and type in "strip tease" in the search field. Maybe you can see some live demonstrations, but don't feel insecure if they are like, the most amazing dancers ever or have huge racks or whatever - your boyfriend wants to see YOU, not Carmen Electra.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2066681_do-strip-tease-man.html
Good luck, sweetness!!!
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reader, Ashley-Pie +, writes (8 June 2009):
Ashley-Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat would be good, But i don't think it would help me much. My main problem is that it is infront of my boyfriend and i'm scared that it wont be what he was hoping for.
I was hoping there would be a website or something that could give me instructions on what i could actually do, but i can't seem to find one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): There may be some classes around your area that you can take. That's what I've been thinking about doing, anyways.
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