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writes:My ex boyfriend split up with me six weeks ago he said he wanted a break. My and my ex used to argue a lot over him going out really. He has also cheated on me a few months ago so I feel like I can't really trust him. After my ex split with me I booked a holiday with my friend as I felt I needed a break as I just felt like I had had enough. I lied to my ex and said me and my friend we're staying with a girl friend because I knew the way he would react. My ex then found out I was staying with a male friend but he also lives with his girlfriend. Since I have been away I have seen pictures of my ex with girls. I rang my ex and he said it has nothing to do with me if he is with one of them and he will never get back with me because I come over here! Why can't he realise he drove me to want to get away! I would like to get back with my ex but he doesn't want me! What do I do?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (14 June 2013):
why would you want this guy?? you know he cheated on you while you were still together, therefore he can do it again if you were back together. he sounds like a loser & you need to distance yourself mentally & physically from him. stop contact & enjoy your holiday if you're still there, it really is none of his business who you stay with.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 When you were together you argued a lot and he cheated on you. NOW he has told you that he will NEVER get back with you. Honey I really don't understand why you are in a quandary over this, it's as plain as the nose on your face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Do you really want your ex back, or are you only jealous that he is with other women? He cheated on you and he drove you away, according to your post. You have both lied to each other. You stayed with a male friend to get even. He just so happened to find out about it. Accidentally on purpose.It's permanently over, and you need to get on with your life. You seem to enjoy the drama. You lay out the reasons you couldn't trust him, and said he is now with someone else.Just focus on getting over that painful time in your life, and start the healing and growing process.He's moving on and you're standing still. Stewing in jealousy and stirring up drama. You don't need to convince your ex of anything. He has first-hand knowledge of why you broke up. He was there when it happened. Most importantly, he doesn't want you back. You need to convince yourself that it's over. IN FACT, HIS CHEATING, ARGUMENTS, AND YOUR TRUST ISSUES ARE THE REASONS YOU BOTH BROKE UP!!! So, your only choice is to get over him.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (13 June 2013):
 So your ex has gone crazy because you are staying in a guys house who HAS a girlfriend? Real that's insane? You see I find a lot of guys who cheat on girls then end up getting back with them also in a way develop trust issues too, this sounds silly because after all they are the cheat right? But sometimes they always have in the back of there heads that maybe one day there girlfriends are gonna go an get there own back. Now I will be honest you shouldn't of lied, but hey after all look at what he's done to you, and he's your ex, you don't have to tell him anything. If he's going out all the time, and has already cheated on you once, do you really think he wants to live his life in a relationship? No..he obviously much prefers the single life. Leave it. Walk away, you can do better than this, and don't worry, when most people break up, they decide to do things such as flirt over there facebook profiles and post loads of happy pictures of themselves with other girls or groups of friends to show what a great time they are having! When more often than not they aren't having such a great time, and they just make themselves look stupid. Also he might be doing it to get back at you, and of course your aloud to ask questions? If I had a boyfriend who was going out all the time, i'd be asking questions non-stop. But seriously you don't deserve this, and not all people can forgive people cheating on them, I for one can't,so don't blame yourself, and accept that this is the path he has chosen. Let him do all of this, meet with different girls and what not, trust me, it will all come tumbling down, and if he comes crawling back to you, do what he has done and point him in the other directions. Walk away, eat some ice cream, chill with friends, get yourself back on the scene and find someone who unlike this guy can treat you with respect. Quack x
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reader, CMMP +, writes (13 June 2013):
If he did drive you away, that is a good reason to stay away. Don't worry about what he thinks. The only reason you want to get back with him is because he dumped you... Before he did that it didn't sound like you wanted him anymore.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 June 2013):
 What you "can do" is FORGET the creep and get on with your life!!!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, NORA B +, writes (13 June 2013):
If your ex does not want you ask yourself this question-What is the point. Would you consider giving the dating scene up for a time.Giving you time and space for yourself and to sort out your fellings.Best Wishes Nora B.
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