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writes:I met a guy who's 2 years younger than me in a dating site. At first, he was very much interested in chatting with me, in meeting me, and was even telling me that i was more important than his work, so he wanted to chat with me more in the middle of his work. it took us only a week to chat and then we decided to meet, so he came to my place. during the first meeting, we laughed together, held hands together, and had a nice conversation and found out that we have some common interests.we planned to meet the next day and he would like me visit his place also.the next day, he sent a message saying that he was a bit sick and would like to sleep more so i may go to his place at least 3pm. Before 3pm he sent me a message saying it was raining in their place and he didn't like me to get tired, (it could be true, for it was also raining in my place that time) so i said "thanks" but deep inside i was disappointed for i really wanted to see him and talked to him more.the following days, he was no longer sending me messages so i would always be the first one to message him, he would instantly reply but not like before we met. i was thinking he might not be interested anymore after seeing my face or whatever his reason is, and i feel like i was also starting to lose my interest in him, however, i couldn't stop myself messaging him first when i had nothing to do, he would reply instantly but he seemed not really interested. he even told me two times, "let me send you a message after my work ok?" but he didn't do it.i know this is embarrassing, but how can i stop myself bothering a man who's not interested with me? please, i need a piece of advice. thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013): I'm joining the choir - delete his number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013): Thanks a lot for all your advice. They are very much appreciated.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 I agree with the anonymous person who told you to delete his number. I practice this for any guy I'm not interested in or is not interested in me, and it works. Out of sight. Out of mind. Open your doors to other guys and forget this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Hello.
I would have understand his behavior if you have done something wrong to him but i don't think that's the case.
You sound like so smitten to him.
But his not into to you.
Repeat that to yourself, he doesn't like me.
He doesn't have time to message me back.
So i have to quit messaging him.
If he realizes his wrong, one day you'll get a message from him.
But i highly suggest for you to stop longing for him.
He ain't worth it.
On the other hand, i have high respect for guys like him because he made it clear to you and his not taking advantage
of your feelings.
Maybe you could be great friends.
Who knows.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 If you have a rubber band place it around a wrist and snap it hard whenever you get the urge to contact the guy. I lost ten pounds doing that once.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 Okay. I'm sorry to tell you this but sometimes when you met someone via the internet or messaging this can happen. They might meet you and not really feel the same spark as you or they could suddenly just decide that maybe you were not what he expected. This is not a bad thing of course, it could just be a simple fact of you two not going well together. Now believe me, I know what its like when you have feelings for someone, or did have and now all you want to do is talk to them. Also when you spend long amounts of time on the internet or texting someone, when it suddenly stops you can feel slightly lonely, and because of that you keep trying to re-gain contact but they just will not have it. He obviously has bigger priorities and i'm sorry to say but as hes just gone all cold on you and stopped speaking you are not one of them. Tell yourself that you deserve better, and you can most definitely find another guy who will CONTINUE to keep talking to you and not just well really cut you off. Block him, or delete his number, delete every way that you can contact him, and maybe start looking for somebody else, you have to be prepared however that when it comes to dating sites, things like this can happen quite regularly, do not feel bad about yourself however in anyway. Quack.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 June 2013):
 Perhaps the only thing you can do is WEAR MITTENS whenever you are not with him.... THAT will keep you from being able to "message" him.... and will bring this futile situation to an end.....
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): The best way to stop it to delete his number, delete him as a friend, or whatever you use to talk to him on! If you're both losing interest what really is the point, You'll do nothing but eventually embarrass yourself. He's trying to be nice about it, take the hint, before he's forced to say or do something, impolite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): seriously just leave it..delete his number from your contact list and just move on..its clear that he is not interested ...if some one is not interested its time to take the hint..and move on gracefully..
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (13 June 2013):
Before you send this guy anymore messages Just ask yourself what is the point and the answer is NO POINT.The good news is that your half way to Not sending him messages.In your own words Why are you bothering a man who is not interested in you.Its not easy but you can do it.Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Delete delete delete!!!
Delete his number and every message between the pair of you.
Block his online profile. Can you delete those messages too?
Look elsewhere - fast. He obviously is....
Good luck
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