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writes:I've been with a guy for 3 years now, however, I have doubts about the relationship. When I first met him, I wasnt living a good lifestyle (I was Bi-sexual, and had a lot of guys), and because of him I changed for the better, I stuck with him because he believed in me and wanted me to be a better person, however, a year into the relationship, he changed, he doesnt trust me any more and he thinks I'm the same person I was before, he's very stubborn, and if he thinks that I cheated I cant tell him otherwise. Within Two and a Half years of our relationship, every other month he tells me the relationship is over, because he's insecure. Since we've been together I've never cheated on him, but he doesnt believe me? How can I change this mentality he has about me?
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reader, SeXylOvE12  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Does he know that you've changed? Do you speak it? Do your actions show it?
You need to have a serious chat with him and tell him that if he doesn't start listening to you and trusting you you will have to end the relationship. Tell him that you love him and that he has no reason to feel insecure. You will both probably need to compromise a bit to make your relationship work and if he's not willing to do that he probably isn't worth your time anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): ok, i dont know if this is going to help, but i just have to say that im going through almost exactly the same thing: i was bi, i had a history with a lot of guys(even though the person i lost my virginity to was him) but i have never cheated on him regaurdless of what he thinks.
i assume im younger than you because im 15 and hes 17, but we've been together for a year and 7 months. i love him with all my heart, but im sick and tired of him doubting me.
so im going to tell him exactly that, plus, that we can either end this or he can trust me like he used to because i've done nothing to defeat that trust.
i guess thats what you should do.
its risky, but either way, youll have more respect for yourself because you stood up to him and you were as honest as you could be.
good luck and have hope(:
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