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writes:i need to let this guy down as i dont feel for him what he feels for me. We have been dating for a bit and are kind of offical at the moment, but i need to break it off before he gets hurt, as i know he really likes me a lot.but i never had to do this before, can anyone advise me:1) how should i word it? 2) should i call, text or meet up in person?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): breakups should always be done in person.
We can't put the words in your mouth, but be straightforward. Don't beat around the bush or leave him believing there's hope for the future. (some girls do that in hopes that they can make it hurt less at the moment.)
The best thing is to try to say it as soon as you're together so you don't end up chickening out or leaving him in complete shock.
Tell him what you liked about him and give him good reasons for why you don't you think you should be together.
Be strong.
Basically, do exactly what i DIDN'T do when I tried to end it with my ex. :(
~SY.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 I would definitely do this in person. Texting or calling doesn't really seem like it's from the heart, and it also seems like you didn't really care for the person enough in the first place. Just call him up and meet him somewhere that's a little private. That way if it becomes a scene, there won't be too many people around. Just tell him the honest truth. Say that you don't think it's working out and it'd probably be smart to end things now before it gets too serious. Show some empathy but be strong. Make sure you really want to do this, because it would look really bad if you broke up with him and then took him back the next day. Mean it and go through with it. No tears, be strong! It'll work out.
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