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writes:My Boyfriend and I have recently broken up due to his depression. He saids he loves me still and we still chat and he has told me I can move on if I need too but he would like to see what happens down the track when he sorts himself out.... He hasn't slept with anyone but could have done but didn't because she was married... The though of him being with other women deverstates me although he has been completely honest about it all... Should I be ok with him sleeping with other girls? Would he be sleep with other girls if he truely loved me??? Any answers would be great Thank you.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 He broke up with you??? I thought it was mutual, or at least you broke up with him! Ok. You need to just stop talking to him, because although he may be depressed, he is just tagging you along now. He can tell you he 'loves you' all he wants, but actions speak louder than words. He broke up with you. He ended your relationship. That's far more telling than three words that almost everyone says on a day to day basis. I would wish him the best of luck and then I would move on. Tell him to get some help. You deserve better, I can tell you're a really nice person. So it'll be easy for you to find other guys to occupy your time. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionah no incorrect.... He broke up with me because of his depression.... I am a genuine girl, I would never dump someone and not expect them to move on and quite honestly even in my situation if he wants to move on and he is happy thats all I care about but when he is still telling me that he loves me and wants to see what happens down the track when he sorts himself out I am fine with that to but should I be fine with him sleeping with other girls too while we wait... When this isnt what I want in the first place... I love him to death and It doesnt bother me that he has depression I would stick by him all the way no matter how hard it gets if he wanted me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): So let me get this straight... sorry if I sound snarky....You dumped him because of his depression, and now you don't want him to move on?It sounds like you should either leave him alone (because frankly, you're not his girlfriend), or just get back together with him if it bothers you so much.What're you doing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I can see where you are coming from but its not your normal kind of break up He has depression and says he still loves me...... Do you think this is all B***S***????
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (11 June 2009):
I will never understand how girls think this way. You have broken up with him hun. In my eyes, you shouldn't really be talking to him anymore because that makes things that much more difficult. You just said that he hasn't slept with anyone, so I don't know why you are thinking about it. In fact, I don't know why it would bother you. You are broken up! Is he supposed to never have sex again as a testament to your once existent love? The way I see it, people break up with others because one of the parties in question just don't love the other anymore. If he is already considering sleeping with other girls, I think he's attempting to get over you. Which is health to an extent. You can't be depressed about one person forever. Sex doesn't exactly cure that though. Guys seem to think so anyway. Move on girl!
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