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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm a virgin, and I'd like to break my hymen myself, so I won't have to worry about the pain when I eventually have sex. The problem is, that I've tried inserting a dildo before, and was able to get it in, but there was no bleeding, and no pain. I'm not sure if this means my hymen is already broken. However, using a dildo doesn't provide me with pleasure. Only with discomfort. What am I doing wrong? How can I break my hymen, since evidently, using a dildo isn't working. Thanks for the help!
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (6 February 2009):
or just wait untill you have sex.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Everyone else gave you great advice on the hymen front, so I'll skip that part of the question. Honey, I've been having sex for a few years now, both with my fella and a few plastic friends (dildos). Dildos SUCK. I personally would take a vibrator any day. Dildos feel like some sort of creepy medical tool that you'd find at the gyno - they're all cold and hard and uncomfortable. So, maybe you're just not into the dildo thang.
Clitoral orgasm is where it's at! Invest instead in a vibrator or just rock your own hand. You'll get it eventually!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (4 February 2009):
you will still probably feel alittle pain or discomfort when you first have sex. there's no escaping that. it's just all to do with his penis stretching your vagina. it's just natural and you just have to relax and maybe use some extra lube.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): some people dont have hymens so either its already broken or you dont have one :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Well if you have managed to insert a dildo before then it sounds like it probably is broken. It is very easy to break it and it probably could have happened quite a long time ago! gymnastics and horse riding can often break the hymen so if you did these activities when you were younger then it probably broke back then. Tampons also break the hymen when they are inserted - try using these if you dont already.
No bleeding and no pain suggest that it is broken - the discomfort will probably be from the size of the dildo and just because you never have had sex before. This will ease in time - try using the dildo more often and this should reduce the discomfort.
There is no real way of being able to tell unfortunately so I think you will just have to hope for the best!
Good luck!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Have you ever rode a bike, horse or done the splits? If so then your hymen has probably already broken at your age it is unlikely to be intact.
I advise not to you this inanimate object and wait for a nice guy to loose your virginity to properly.
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