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writes:One of my best friends and I recently decided that there might be some kind of chemistry between us... We decided to go on a real date and see where things went...The date was awful. It was awkward and we had nothing to talk about. I'm not sure if it was just the environment or what... But I was terrible. I told him I needed some time to re-evaluate our relationship, especially because it would be long-distance (he's away at school).The day after the date, he sent me a string of text messages... He said that despite the awkwardness of the date, he still really likes me a lot and that he's neve felt this way about a person before. He also said that he knows long-distance is hard, but that he'd be glad to wait for me. I actually got really freaked out when I read the messages. We've always been friends and only had one (awful) date... It's just too much for me. I thought there might be something between us, but the date was just so terrible... How can I tell him the magic is gone for me? How can I say I'm freaked out that he feels so strongly? To be honest, the idea of someone feeling that way about me, doesn't even really make sense to me.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 tell him now there will be nothing more that friendship. It is better to do it right after the first date. No confusion
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (1 January 2013):
Right from the start the chemistry is there between a man and woman.As he is your friend you owe him the truth.Be gentle but firm and tell him the way you feel.He may feel hurt in the begining but time will heal the hurt and he may thank you later for being honest with him.Best luck Nora B.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 January 2013):
 It's not really a grand idea to try to date a male friend. Like you stated, it doesn't go anywhere and makes the friendship extremely awkward.
Since he's away at school this may be the perfect time to tell him how you feel about the date. Be honest with him, and tell him you don't see anything coming of it, and that you would like to go back to the way you were before. IF that is possible. Some rejected friends, cannot accept the terms and let the friendship fizzle out. See what he says in return.
And don't ever make the mistake of trying to date a male friend. You just don't randomly develop feelings for them over time. They fall into one of two categories when you meet them, potential boyfriend or just a friend.
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