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writes:hiim 14, and very shy.its mostly around guys. everyone always says that your shyness will decrease in time, and that i should just be myself around members of the opposite sex. well i just cant be myself. i always feel as though i have to be someone im not when im around guys. i only wish that i could act the same around guys as i am with my friends. so can anyone help me by giving me advise that wil help me be myself around guys and to be less shy. i need more confidence. please. i hate being shy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): worry about conversation starters when youve finnally boosted your self confidence around boys once thats good you will be able to talk about ANYTHING! er well most things, a good conversation started is to compliment them, who dosnt like compliments? for eg. if he gets a hair cut tell him it looks good! oh and work on being funny so make him laugh (without laughing at your own jokes amd dont make it look like you are trying too hard)
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reader, omon  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Hello there,
how about letting situation bring you both close enough to talk....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, thank you for the advice. i will try them out.also can i just ask, does anyone know any "small talk" or conversation starters, for when i talk to "the guy"thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): i was the same way when i was your age, in fact, it was only a couple of years ago. i'm a guy and up until a few months ago i couldn't even so much as talk to a girl. what i would recommend is that you find a guy that you like, and start talking to him. eventually, the shyness will go away and you will get more comfortable talking to guys.i know how you feel, and the only way to get rid of it is to just get out there and talk. one thing a lot of people forget is that men and women are really very similar in personality. i'm sorry if i told you the same things you've heard before, but its true.
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reader, omon +, writes (8 December 2007):
Hello there,The only way to overcome your problem is to face it,(speaking from experience, i guess).If you always feel shy around guys you like, it is simply because you tend to ''want to be perfect'' around them which makes you ''not be yourself'' which you are always comfortable with. You are young and don't know how to hide feelings around guys you intend liking.Best thing to do; simply tell the guy in a surprising moment that you like him as a friend, you don't want to feel uncomfortable around him any more simply because you are shy.....watch his reactions, if he is mature enough...he knows exactly wat to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): when i was 13 i had the same problem! (im 15 now) especially around boys i liked! i fixed it by talking to boys who i had no feelings for what so ever! because i was more comfortable around them rather than talking to boys i actually liked where i would be seriosuly nervous! try find a boy you have something in common with in one of your classes like art or woodwork where you can have time to talk, compliment his art work etc. and things will move on from there eventually you will build up more confidence by practicing talking to them. hope that helps!
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