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writes:Hello I been running into a problem lately with my girlfriend and she thinks I'm boring. I don't know why I try to have fun she likes to sing dance and tell jokes(raunchy kind) and just be hyper and what not. I myself like to do these too maybe not as much as my girlfriend but still none the less. This has caused quite a few problems she gets bored easily because of her ADD and if I can't keep up she gets in a cranky mood and if I try to do anything she likes to do it just seems weird to her and gets her annoyed. Yet she can have fun with everyone else just not me and I want to be fun I want to be hyper and crazy like she is and I know I can I've done it before but lately all I have been doing is annoying her please tell me what I can do to save our relationship from boredom I want her to enjoy her time with me. Please anyone know how I can be more fun with my girlfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): Dump her !
Really, she thinks your boring?!! Well in my experience people who are bored easily like to be the centre of attention, they like ALOT of attention. In other words high maintenance.
So, let her go, find yourself company that appreciates you for who you are,you are not compatible with this young lady. But you will be with others.She needs to sort her issues out before she dates.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 there's 2 things her. firstly you have to be yourself and you have to be happy with what you are. so work on yourself. the other thing is some people with make you dance to there tune if they think you will. that's ok in a relationship as long as you obey the first rule. good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 You are just setting yourself traps by trying to accomodate your girlfriend. There will never be enough fun in her life. The mind of an Add person goes like this, it's like a ticking time bomb in his/her head saying, "what next! what next!" This is the reason why substance abuse and thrill seeking can get some of them in trouble with the law. My son is 6 and he is constantly whining that he wants to do something fun and no toy is ever enough. It is wearing me down. I need professional advice.
Your girlfriend needs to appreciate your presence in her life. Maybe you need to distance her a bit so she can see what you mean to her. You are not in her life to get rid of her boredom. You do not need to save your relationship by changing into someone you are not. If she does not know how to handle her issues she could not go very far in relationships.
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