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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up one week ago. I am a weak and unconfident girl; Since I wanted him back, so I was doing some stupid things like calling, texting, etc. And then he said I was a " stalker." When he said that, it hurts me so so much. I can't believe t he said that, so I decided to leave him and move on. However, I want to show him that I am strong and confident. My life is even more beautiful without him. Please show me how to be strong and confident; I want him to feel sorry for leaving me. I admit that I am very weak and lack of confidence.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 January 2010):
 ok well you cant get your bf back now that said you need to get over him. Im not gonna tell you that you need to boost your confidence and self esteem for yours] self not for someone else because it wont do you any good you probably need counseling and therapy to reverse years of pent up self loathing and even then the results will probably be negligible.
Ok so so your weak and all that fine thats you its not a big deal, but you need to get over your bf your EX,FORMER,PAST boy friend. he doesnt want you.
i dont kno if your a 1 or a 10 your probably a six so believe me when i say there will more boyfriends in your life. I would even go out with you if it wasnt for the fact that im actually a double o agent for mi6 and i have a one legged brazillian midget snuffleluflegus to take care of so you can see i have no time for datng pretty girls,
but hey heres a thought get an account on Dearcupid help people out feel better about your self drop me a line we can be pals and no your not weak just a girl with a lonely beating heart hey break ups happen to us all but im not a hot chick so i cant bounce back from them as quickly as im sure you can manage
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Do not have sex with someone you are not married to before God just because you crave love. That is not a good way to search for it.
Be more confident by doing what is right. Then when you are denied what you deserve, the illusion that it is your fault no longer holds any power.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Rather than trying to be strong and confident so that he will feel sorry for leaving you do it for yourself. You have admitted to having a more beautiful life without him. Enjoy yourself without him and hopefully soon you will become strong and confident.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 January 2010):
Hi there,
First of all, you need to be more confident for yourself, not so you can show your ex that you're better off without him. If you're looking for him to suddenly change, or say sorry or regret leaving you, you're going to become even more hurt. Be confident and strong for yourself, not for revenge. Let your ex go into the past and don't contact him or anything like that.
To build your confidence up, you need to find out why you're underconfident. You need to look at your life, your past and see what it is that has hurt you and caused you to feel the way you do. When you find the problem, you can start to fix it. Were you bullied, or ever felt abandoned and such? Confidence comes form knowing who we are. So take time to find yourself and enjoy your life. Start hobbies, meet new people. I know it's not easy. I was depressed for years and felt nervous. But if I can become more confident, so can you. But like I said, do it for yourself, not to show your ex up. All the best.
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