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*ucy.whittaker
writes:Hi All,I split up with my ex of 3 years 3 months ago. Got into a relationship with a new guy, who is really nice and stuff, but it's moved really fast and I'm not ready for anything too heavy or serious. How do I take it back to being just fun without breaking his heart? It's not that I don't want to be with him, I just don't want to rush into making commitments again. He's mentioned living together next year and I don't even know if I want to BE with him in a years time. I don't want him to fall for me too hard in case it turns out I can't do this, because I'm finding the relationship a struggle already. I just want to enjoy myself...Lucy xxxx
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reader, lucy.whittaker +, writes (6 January 2010):
lucy.whittaker is verified as being by the original poster of the question That would be a good thing to do, were I not an absolute Atheist and if he weren't totally aware of that fact. I have been sleeping with him since we got together, he stayed at my place for about 2 weeks worth of the month. It's good, but he's like a puppy with me, telling me how much he likes me and always checking up on me. I don't need that kind of relationship. I just don't know if it's worth staying with him. I mean, he's really lovely, and I'm sure I'd fall for him in time, but I don't know if it's worth giving it that time.
Thanks for your opinion though!! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Do not have sex with him unless you two are married. Do not live with him, since you two are not committed. Tell him you made a big mistake, that you do not necessarily dislike him but that you think what you did before was morally wrong since you were not married before God. If he does not understand, then leave. You will not be wrong for doing so, even though it will hurt.The truth is easy to know but hard to do. But master the second part as best you can, and never justify yourself when you fail.
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