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writes:I have a boyfriend, everything is great and he is very good in bed. I started knowing that women reach climax also by him, but i don't think he feels good because he is always on top of me, i am just afraid to be on top, i am shy, i would really like to make our sex life interesting for both of us. I am too shy to do the blow job also, what should i do?
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reader, JenL  +, writes (3 September 2011):
 i'm like you too so it is always my boyfriend who's on top. I would really love to try some other positions, but is too shy to. Also, I'm not the slim type so that makes me less confident to show him my body. we did tried doggie style & i actually like it, but i don't know why he never try that again. I also try to be on top a few times, but i can't do it properly. Blow job is actually quite enjoyable to me, though i suck at doing that at the beginning too. not sure i do it right now, but he seems to enjoy it
i hope you can find a way to overcome your shyness & enjoy the sexual intimacy ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): I used to be the same but then he took me through things and because i love him i found myself becoming less and less shy! We have a great sex life now, it was before but if he wasnt happy with it he wouldnt still do it! Remember most men like being on top anyway. Just give these things a go honestly you will be fine and it will probably make you bond even more as a couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): I used to have a similar problem to tell you the truth, I was self-conscious and always despised my body and was afraid to try anything new because I feared his eyes on me, what i was doing, i didn't know what to do to please him. It was awful that i was afraid to try something new with him. What i did was i would start asking every time at the start of anything, i would ask him whats one part of me that he liked and he couldn't repeat what he said the last time. Well it helped start to boost my confidence in my body. One thing I tried just to get comfortable with trying something new, I asked him whats one thing that we could try together that was new. My guy is one who always wanted me on top as well. I told him that we would go slow and take things one at a time, and that he was to teach me. Well, instead of him wearing the blind fold, I actually wore it, on one condition, he was to kiss every spot of me that he loved, starting from head to toe. Mind you no He said he loved my bum but wasn't going to kiss it. I started to giggle anyways when he kissed my belly. I let him lead me, he was to tell me everything that he was going to do, and what he'd like me to do, and it worked for us. The key is communication, if you can't communicate with your partner, it will be that much harder for you to connect and try new things. Eventually it does become like a game, and you get curious and want to try something new just to know what its like.
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reader, Lately +, writes (1 September 2011):
Talk to him about it. Take it slow. You try something new, then he try something new...maybe make a game out of it. Also if you are shy to be on top in front of him place a blindfold on him. Only do it if you are comfortable other wise it will be difficult in more ways than you know.
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