| A
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: At parties/bars can you not drink and be successful with girls there? I ask because I dont drink because Im an athlete and drinking weakens my performance. I am not the most socially confident though so when a girl asks me why im not drinking I cant find the words to say why. I have nothing morally against drinking, I just like girls who know their limits.What can I do to be less awkward about not drinking.. and girls/women/aunts do you find it strange if a guy doesnt drink? Would you not date him? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone! These answers sure make me feel better about the whole thing
Also RubyBirtle, I had a girlfriend who didnt drink for a year and she always thought I was weird for it. That didnt stop me from taking care of her when he had too much. Recreationally drinking doesnt bother me and I certainly dont have a problem with it since my only long term girlfriend did drink. Thank you for your answer again
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 September 2014):
 I think ANY girl would actually find that a GOOD thing. And if someone asks.. saying that you are serious about your sport and thus don't want to ruin your performance is a great answer. NOTHING to be shy or embarrassed about.
I have had friends (in our teens and 20's) who smoked pot or did speed/cocaine, ask me why I never did drugs. And I told them that I had seen the results of drugs and it had made me pretty certain to stay away from them. I got a shrug, they got a shrug and everything carried on.
There is NOTHING wrong in knowing what you want FOR yourself and what you don't. It just shows that you take thing serious and that you are reliable, both good traits... for sure.
...............................
A
female
reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (22 September 2014):
I don't think it's weird if a guy doesn't drink and it wouldn't put me off dating him. What would put me off, however, would be a feeling that the guy thought he was in some way superior to me for not drinking. Or obviously disagreed with my lifestyle choice of enjoying an alcoholic drink or tried to encourage me to give up or follow his lifestyle path instead of my own.
...............................
A
female
reader, jls022 +, writes (22 September 2014):
Personally speaking, I think your reason for not drinking is likely to be very attractive to girls. It's also a great ice breaker as I'm sure they will want to know all about your sport afterwards too. Be confident in the fact there will be lots of young girls out there who love the idea of an athletic guy who doesn't act like a drunk idiot on a night out!
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 September 2014):
 I think that " I am an athlete , drinking affects my performances " is a most reasonable, excellent reason.
Not that you need any particular excuse for not drinking , if it was something like " I don't drink because I don't like the taste or smell of alcohol " that would not make you a weirdo or a misfit, just a person with his own individual tastes.
But if your problem is to find a socially acceptable reason, I'd say yours is perfect. Lots of sporty people drink very little or nothing at all.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014): I think if's perfectly fine to not drink. You should just tell them the truth as to why you don't drink. Tell them that as an athlete, drinking weakens your performance so you choose not to drink.
There are actually girls out there who do prefer guys who do not drink. Not all girls like or think that guys who drink are cool.
Just be yourself, I'm sure the right girl will come along and like you for who you are!
...............................
A
male
reader, C. Grant  +, writes (22 September 2014):
 I would think that being serious about athletics, and therefore taking good care of your body, would be something people would find attractive. Rather than being shy about it be proud and confident.
However, if you want to stick out less, you could drink no-alcohol beer. Or, in a more sophisticated venue, club soda with lots of ice and a lime wedge could easily be taken for an alcoholic drink. Either way you can avoid questions, at least until the conversation gets going and she sees that your an interesting guy.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014): I think the reasons you gave in your question for not drinking are just perfect. Be honest and straightforward - that you're an athlete who's taking care of your body, and you like a woman who knows her limit. If a woman can't accept that, she's not your type - and she obviously doesn't know her limit. I really respect the reasons you gave, and the right women for you will respect that too.
...............................
|
