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writes:My boyfriend of 4 years has adhd. I am already in a hard situation as i have grown up with violence my whole life. My boyfriend will go off at the most pathetic thing if i dont do what he wants he hurts me he wants me to constantly have what he wants on a platter. I have asked him to change his ways but he wont. He calls me names like bitch useless freak fuckhead the list goes on then he wants sex or for me to be happy. How can i be happy with him fucking with my head
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): from what you have said it is not healthy at all. you have to look out for yourself and live your life to the fullest. do not hold yourself back by having some man control your life. because thats what he is doing if he wants everything from you. you only live once and dont waste your time being unhappy. do not let a person ever control you. you are your own person and you do what you want. he might have this disorder, but you cannot be miserable because of it.
i have been in a situtaion a little milder then yours and i am much happier now that it is over. (as bad as it sounds). i did love him but he just was not good for me or the one for me. dont be blind to all the signs and reality. use your head and what you honestlyy think is right. good luck!
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reader, SOLVEIG29  +, writes (16 August 2008):
Ok, people with diagnoses are entitled to be loved but only if their diagnosis does not get in the way. Sounds like his adhd is out of control and I advise you to get out and get support for yourself. This is not a healthy relationship - you deserve more. My ex had ocd and after 2 years i have realised that there were 3 people in our relationship and his ocd was so out of control he allowed himself to hurt me badly (see my post on our breakup) Personally i think he used his ocd as an excuse sometimes to take the easy way out.
People with issues deserve love but not if their issues are harming those they love and tearing them apart. I have depression but i'm damned if i allow it to hurt anybody else.
Get out honey, for your safety. Love does not hurt.
Jxxx
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