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writes:so recently i started hanging out with some of my old friends, and when they really knew me we were all in the drug scene together (smoking pot every day alone or in combination with other drugs) but after i moved i got a new girlfriend and we had a few party months, and a year and a half into our relationship she has cleaned me up from all that completely. ok with all that explained, my old friends keep asking me to hang out with them when I'm not at work and every time i do it's like they try to get me to do drugs, not really pressure they're just throwing it out there, it's tempting but i promised my girlfriend i wouldn't do anything of that manner without her with me (mostly because I'm a horny moron on drugs.. like most guys) so i always say no but i kind of want to do something like that with them so we can kind of, go back and talk about old memories and laugh together and i can remember how i used to be.. but i don't want to because of all the possible consequences. just don't know what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Hello,
I was just wondering, have you tried saying your friends 'please dont ever offer me drugs ever again'? I dont know about your friends, but if I said that to mine, they were certainly stop offering me drugs if I asked them to.
If this fails you may just have to stop seeing them, at least until you know you can resist. Good Luck :)
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 I know this probably won't be what you want to hear, but I don't think you should hang out with your old friends, they may not be pressuring you, but it may get to that, and the more you are around it, the more you may be tempted. Your girlfriend spent so much time with you, and stuck by you, it would be safer to just, not be around them when taking drugs, and if you want to hang out with them, ask them not to take drugs, you have a great life now, don't throw it all away for something you've tried so hard to get off of.
Hope this helps. Good luck with everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): If you have an "addictive personality" you probably can't.
There's an old saying in twelve step programs...Stay off the tracks if you don't want to get hit by the train! I struggled with drug addiction for years. and to this day, I can't be around them for fear of the temptation. I can honestly say I have never turned down drugs offered me. If it's in my face, I'm gonna get high. That's why I have distanced myself from people who use...I realize they weren't true friends anyway.
When an addicted person abstains from drugs, their addiction still continues to grow...when an addict relapses, he picks up NOT WHERE HE LEFT OFF, BUT WHERE HE WOULD BE IF HE NEVER STOPPED! It's progressive and although you may be able to resist temporarily, if you continue to be around drugs...you're going to use! I know this from my own personal research and years of unhappiness! Please understand, I'm not implying you are an addict...only you can know that. But I truly believe, if you are asking the question...chances are you have a problem with drugs! There are lots of books on this subject...including the big book of NA (narcotics annonymous) they also have hotlines all over the world. If you do think you need help, please get it! So many of my old friends are dead now due to drugs! And every single one of them started out as social/recreational users who believed (in the beginning) that they could stop at any time! I am a pretty liberal thinker, but when it comes to drugs, I'm not...Drugs are a miserable evil...and satans greatest weapon!
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