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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid i have a problem,i have been trying to work things out with my ex boyfriend for a year and a half. we have just been on and off. he was my best friend for two years and romantic for the last year and a half so about four years he has been my world. we just decided to end it permanently and i can't get through this he was my first love he said he loved me and nothing would change that and he wanted this and one minute were dating and everything is great and then bam he can't get close to anyone. please help me dear cupid im so confused and hurt and lonely. he just let everything go or it seems like and i can't. how could he just let go so easy????
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 June 2009):
 He's not you. It takes you longer because of the feelings attached to what you shared, and the direction you thought this would be going. I want you to know, it's never easy to loose someone. When it happens, you'll always have a place for them, because you can't just erase experience.
People say things, and it doesn't mean their position won't change. That is really the sad reality of being in a relationship. I don't know why this happened to you. It's sad when I talk to good people who feel as if they've been crushed from separating.
Although he can choose not to be with you, I want you to treasure the time you did have together. All good experience is special because it's part of what develops you into being you. Not all good things will last as long as we would like them to but the memories of them should be treasured. I hope you find the one who's out there waiting for you, that when he says forever, it's forever. And just because he lets it go easily, doesn't mean you have to do the same. Take your time in getting through this, it's not a race, but at the finish line, I wish you the greatest happiness, because you don't deserve anything less.
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