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writes:What should I think?I never really understood men....I have had my ex text and call me for the past few months. Chatting about what was and what could be. We decided it was hard to make any plans without meeting up to see how we felt. So we made plans to meet up and everything was well. The day I left I hadn't heard from him for a couple of weeks so I decided to give him a call. He answered and said he would call me right back. That was it. I have heard nothing. How can you go from declaring your undying love to someone and more or less planning your future etc to not returning a phone call? Im now too proud to call him as im scared he will do the same again but still would like some answers. I know for a fact he hasnt been in an accident as he is online alot.What do I do? Shall I leave him and let him be or try and contact him again?To the story goes he started off being very good a texting and calling back but it got worse as the months went on. We would still have phone conversations lasting up to an hour just weeks before this.What do I do?Any anwers or tips on this behaviour are welcome.Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your thoughts on my messed up love life!
I hadn't seen him for a few years and we arranged to meet up. He just never showed.....
When broke up after being engaged a few years back we did that because he cheated on me. He comforted me recently by saying he didn't sleep with anyone behind my back at least.
I don't know what to think. I just want to understand the thinking and logic behind this.
It has stirred up so many feelings and emotions again and I never truely got over him the first time and now it is harder then ever. I have him on myspace etc, should I delete him or let him see how I get on with my life and have fun?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Let's recap: You and an ex met up and he expressed his undying love for you. Now he doesn't call you. And you know he's around because you see him online. It really doesn't take much deductions to know...he lied to you, hun. My suggestion: Do not contact him. Get over him and when you do, you become strong and make sensible decisions that is good for your life. See him for what he really is and move on with your life. I know it hurts, but you are worth so much more than this BS. Never, ever date a man who doesn't do what he says he's going to do...simple as that. His actions alone have told you that and what his character truely is all about. Get out and date other guys are are really, really into you and respect you. Why? Because you have pride and you deserve a great guy who'll treat you like a queen. This guy isn't the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Maybe something bad happened in his personal life that he felt he couldn't share with you. ie money problems. But I think in this case he was probably in between relationships and was in contact with you as his back up girl. My ex used to do that all the time on-off and on-off again. When it was on it was because he was using me for sex and when it was off he was hooking up with other girls. Well whatever your ex's reason you don't need a loser like him in your life and I wouldn't give him the satisfaction or the time of day to explain himself.
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reader, honestheart +, writes (11 September 2007):
It seems to me that he was being selfish and wanted to boost his ego by wanting to see if he could still make you want him. I doubt this is the first time he's played with someone's heart and i doubt it will be the last. You're much better off without him.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (11 September 2007):
 Perhaps he is trying to hint to you that he's not interested? If you don't want to spend ages thinking "Why?" or "What if I'd have called him?" the only way you're going to know is if you swallow your pride and call him. Or if you're certain you're going to move on, then delete his number and don't look back. Easier said than done I know. Hope it all works out for the best. :] x
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