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writes:My boyfriend wants me to watch this show game of thrones. The story sounds interesting but he told me there is a lot of nudity. To me then it sounds like porn with a really long story. I want to try to enjoy it since he loves the show but I can't seem to understand how men are so mute to dirty sex scenes and I just so happen to be not into that. SO does anyone have any idea how I can watch a show so graphic and not have to watch people have sex every few scenes. My man is very different he is actually not the typical guy that watches porn but I can't understand how some people are so mute to nudity? It makes me wonder if this kinda stuff can ruin the reality of 2 people having sex? Like me and him. Please let me know what you think maybe you can give me some ideas on how to be more open minded or something I am not sure why I feel so awkward about dirty sex scenes but I do and I am not a religious nut either.
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 August 2011):
 It's a very good show, and for the most part the nudity is relevant to the story (more so in the book; a few scenes in the latter half were made up for TV, and it shows) and tells you something about the characters. It's not porn, it's just a story, and it's not played for shock value - ratings, maybe, but not shock. For instance, the character Daenerys goes through a lot of development, and her nude/sex scenes are some of the clearest ways of depicting it (you'll get the idea if you watch). The story also depicts a lot of violence, intolerance, and desperation - it's a story about people struggling against a harsh, uncaring world, with some characters being more heroic or villainous than others.
It sounds like your boyfriend knew you felt this way about gratuitous nudity and was just doing a poor job of trying to prepare you for it, not that he was fixating on it.
In the more general sense, bodies are just bodies. I love boobs as much as the next guy, but I've seen them before, and don't have to get worked up over softcore nudity on my tiny TV screen. There's nothing to be ashamed of; but then, there's nothing wrong with feeling a little awkward about it, either. But real-life nudity and sex with someone you care about are both very, very different from TV depictions, and seeing the latter is not going to ruin the former.
Give the show a try. It takes an episode or two to get into it, but it's a guy's kind of show, so no worries if you aren't into it after a fair shot.
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 Never seen "Game of Thrones" so I can't speak to how gratuitous it is. Personally, I wouldn't want to see a show where "people have sex every few scenes" if it was just thrown in there for no reason or for shock value.
But just because something has nudity does not automatically make it "porn". That would be a rather unenlightened and uncultured attitude to take towards art. If you are dead set against ever seeing another person's unadorned body, you will deprive yourself of a lot of classic cinema and artwork, including even the Sistine Chapel at the Vatican.
You don't have to like your bf's favourite show. I'm sure many people can't watch "The Godfather", "The Exorcist" or "The Passion of the Christ" due to the violence -- they just have an inborn aversion to it. You may be the same with regards to nudity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): If he's inviting you to watch it with him because the story line is interesting, it doesn't sound like he's into it for the sex scenes. Sex scenes in cable TV programming aren't as graphic as the sex scenes in porn, so I don't think it'll ruin sex for the two of you.
Now, if your boyfriend is commenting about the sex scenes only, then you can be concerned.
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