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writes:How will my parents react to me dating someone who is pregnant with another persons child. Im 18 and i really do love her. And i will help her with the kid as much as i can once it born while im still in school and treat it like my own. Ive been treated badly by my step father so i know jow it feels and i dont want to ever do that to any kid.But im afraid that my father and step mom will take it badly even tho i know im doing the right thing. Will the take it badly or well. Reply to this Question
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (11 January 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah thanks everyone, i know that its really my choice and they cant really stop me because legally i could be on my own and have considerd it before. But i dont want to ignore them and make them mad so they dont help me in the future. I have been thinking about all this for a while but i still want to do this.I realize what it could do and i was planning on doing what one of you said help with the kid but not take full responsibilitie of it until im out of school. Her parents are going to take care of it while she is at school once its born so it wont be a problem. I just know that my parents would see it as a hindrance. And i have also feared what you guys spoke off with the me missing out on the things i would miss out on sticking with her, but i refuse to cheat, i will never do it when im clear headed and ive never been drunk so that says something. Ive seen what it can do and ill never do that to someone. She would be my first person if i stay with her that i have had sex with i dont know if this will affect the way i think when i get a little older or not. I just hope this all works out for the best. Thanks again. Ill send everyone a response when this situation works itself out.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (11 January 2008):
 To be honest I do not think that your parents are going to like the idea of you dating someone who is pregnant. But you are an adult and that is your decision to make. You sound like a nice guy and you want to do the right thing, which is great but although you love her the baby is not your responsibility. You can be a great boyfriend without burdening yourself with the responsibilities of a baby. That does not mean that you mistreat this child, but that you play the role as her boyfriend and not the babys father. Let her and the kids father and there families deal with the child. You can still help her out, but do not over extend yourself. Get your education and a great job so that in a few years if you are still with her and want to get married you will be financially able to take care of your wife and stepchild if this relationship last. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): In the end it really doesn't matter what they think.
You appear to be a legal adult and they have no say and no legal hold over you any longer.
Flynn 14
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 If you want to build a house, you will need to count the cost.
If you go ahead without counting the cost , it may cost your dearly.
Can you afford to pay the price?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 January 2008):
If your father have a choice , he would not want you to do that.You are sacrificing your future for a life of responsibilities at a very young age. Further more the child is not yours. It could create potential problems in later life.
You are young and idealistic and you do not understand the magnitude of your problems .You will need the support of your parents and if they are not coming , you will be on your own .
As what Collaroy wrote, it is a tough road to travel .When you are in love, you think everything is possible.
You will miss the freedom of being independent. A time to do what you like and please or sow your wild oats.
You should think carefully before you want to walk this tough and hard journey.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Hi,
this is a tough one. I have to say that your parents will not take it well, if anything its because you are so young and not financially independent. They will see it as something that will tie you down for the best years of your life and they would have a point. Supporting a baby while still going to school is unrealistic , how will you pay rent? support your girlfriend? pay the bills? You will need to be working full time and most likely have a part time job as well. School will soon take a backseat as you will simply not have the time. That is a huge sacrifice for a young man such as yourself.
However, love conquers all and if you guys are meant to be together nobody will be able to stop you. Just know what you are in for that's all. Your life will be dictated by a new baby and you might find despite your good intentions that in a few years time you want to experience the opportunities that all other young men have.
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