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writes:I'm 14, I'll be 15 in 3 days and i believe i am 4 or 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is 16 he will be 17 in about a month.HE is completly happy about the pregnancy. he wants a kid.He has a job.I am Scared! I will NOT give up my kid. Will NOT have a abortion or give him/her up for adoption..i take full responsibility. I love him/her Already.The only reason im wishing i was not pregnant is because I'm so scared of my parents reactions.. they dont know and my mom had her first kid when she was 15 as well. I dont even know how to tell my parents.. please help me. My sister is 18 and she got me the pregnancy test but she is not being to supportive "you better not be pregnant", "you cant have a kid", "i told you not to have sex with someone who wants a kid" and so on.. I can't take the criticism any more please be nice. I know i should not of been having sex and that I'm too young. So dont be mean and criticize me. I'm on here for help. Please Give me some Support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): heyat the end of the day whats done is done and nothing can be changed.im in a similiar situation i got pregnant at 18 though and my parents werent happy at all but they got used to the idea im now nearly 21 and pregnant again with my second child by a different father and i know exactly how u feel cos im scared to tell my family but once its done u feel slightly relieved and whatever they say to u its onli words and theyl calm down you need to come across as machore and sure of what u want im sure everything will be fine good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): ouch..... ummmm, first of all you should be honest but the next time think things through if you do things at random you will have consequences and ummmmm.....not to insult but ever consider protection :|
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Honestly hun, people make mistakes. Of course your parents will be upset, but there your parents, that's there job. Your mother most likely will be more understanding and less arrogant, where as your father will be the most disappointed since your his little girl. No father wants there baby to be pregnant before marriage. I would first tell my mother then my father. First be sure that you are pregnant, don't want to put a scare on your parents. I support your decision to keep your baby, I'm sure he/she will be beautiful and filled with love and joy. Good luck!
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reader, Ashleyjoe +, writes (2 July 2009):
Ashleyjoe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank oyu guys so much! you all have helped me so much this is goin to be very hard but i know i can do it.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 Renee okc, I like that what you write there" Congratulation too" thats it.. sure you will be happy.
The father of baby is 17" and you will be 15 in 3 days.
thats fine. The father of the baby had a job "very great"
so what you scared for? youre scared of what your parents will say or do! No'you must not be scared, because you already made a decision. so either the parents get mad or not you already made the decision. you wanna stand that baby then face it. so easy is it? just sit down and talk.
Mom" Dad, im pregnant. my boy friend and me are both happy and VERY MUCH READY FOR THIS BIG, HUGE RESPONSIBILITIES. so either you like it or not. Me and my boy friend will work on this. take it or leave it...... Good luck
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 July 2009):
 So your mother has been through this herself, if she had a baby at 15. Don't you think she would have some understanding of what you're going through? I think the fear of their reaction is probably more dire than how they really will react.
They are your parents, they love you and they will be there for you. I think you should talk to them very soon, tonight, even, as they probably have figured out that there is something troubling you.
What are your choices here? Not tell them, and have them find out when you start to show; their disappointment then will be much much greater than if you tell them now. Or tell them now, so you and they can prepare for what steps come next.
You're doing grown up things, now you have to act like a grown up, okay? It's part of maturing. I'm sorry you have to face this, but you are where your choices put you, I'm sure you have figured that out, learned this the hard way.
Go tell them that you need to talk to them. Then be honest, and be sure to tell them that you are scared and need their support now more than ever.
I hope everything turns out for the best for you.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (2 July 2009):
How do you expect someone to not criticize you when you have made a huge decision that will affect the rest of your life first off CONGRADULATION'S ON YOUR GOOD NEWS A BABY IS ALWAYS A BLESSING AT ANY AGE. All you can do is be honest your family maybe upset at first but after your baby comes everyone will fall in love and maybe things wont be so stressed. Make sure you and the father talk to each other before speaking to parents to try to come up with a plan of what ya'll will do to take care of the baby i am glad he has a job that will help alot but you will need more money than he can make being 16. First get medical care make sure the baby is healthy and then tell your family they should know a.s.a.p. Now you have to women up and grow up fast i hope things work out but there isnt any advice anyone can give you tell your parents if they insist that you have to give your baby up for adoption or have a abortion you will have to leave but please remember they cannot make you give up your baby so you might end up moving out and growing up fast that is just the way it is i hope your family will support you and your sister can be supportive but it is hard for a sister to stand by while her lil sister is making decisions that effect the rest of her life.
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