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writes:I'm looking at starting a new relationship with a woman. I've been separated from my ex for several months now, but we still have a business relationship and I am close to her family. Because of the business relationship a lot of people don't realize we are a couple.If the new relationship goes anywhere, I feel I should give the full details about my ex. Eventually, I may give up the business relationship with my ex as I would be afraid of this getting in the way of my new relationship.Has anyone been in a situation like this? How do you deal with the issue of your ex, and how soon? What about the ex's family?Thanks.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Well I hope it all goes great for you and wish you happiness for the future xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I agree about being open and honest if the new relationship is going to be successful. Since the relationship with my ex was not public to a lot of people, I wondered if I should wait a little bit. But maybe not... openness is important.
So far we've just had lunch more as friends, and chatted online. Nothing yet that would really be a "date", but I think we will.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (14 June 2009):
I think honesty where ex's are concerned is paramount when beginning a new relationship. If you place all your cards on the table and state your intentions, then everyone involved knows the score. Hiding anything so important will just create discord later and your new partner may feel betrayed and deceived.
As for the ex's family, there is no reason to stop contact if you can avoid it negatively affect your growing new relationship. Again keep your new partner informed and find out what her opinion is. If she insists you stop seeing and speaking to them, then your just going to have to make a decision as to which way you go...but keeping things transparent will help you decide together in an honest way and that can only help strengthen things.
Good Luck to you and I hope you find a way through.
Aunty Em xx
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