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writes:i have been married for over 2 years i asked my husband even before we were going out if he has children he said no. I have found out that he has 2 or more children. i feel like my life as been a lie, i feel decieved and my husband has been controlling and shaping me life. i dont know what to do please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): That's a real dousy. I think Ann Landers would tell you that you need to reevaluate the relationship and possibly end it. How can you trust a born liar? Reminds me of Madaoff, and he scammed people of over $ 50 billion.The fact he controls you is terrible. I think you really need to leave him. People who attempt to control you, tell you what you can do and who you can be with are in a way insane. They could drive you crazy. They could even kill you when you try to leave the relationship.What else is in his closet? Does he have a criminal record? You just don't know? How can you ever trust anything he says?You've only invested two years, don't have any children with him, so are pretty free to go.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (14 June 2009):
 2 or more??...doesn't he know how many?? Blimey what a magnificent guy and so kind of him to lie to you about it. It's not like covering up that he loves kittens or wore socks in bed!!! these are his children!!!!
He most certainly has been controlling you, as for shaping you, well it's hard to say as you have been kept in the dark about this. The way I see it, unless he comes completely clean with you, accepts and helps towards the cost of upbringing his children (however many there may be)and gets major help for being such a lying deceiving idiot, you had better head straight for the divorce courts.
Do you think you can ever trust him again?...and what else has he lied about.
If you can't face ending things with him or even trying to work things out then you will just have to accept the pain and unrest as a part of your life with him.
Good Luck and I hope you see the light
Aunty Em xxx
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