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writes:Quick poll: when a gal goes on her period:-Guys: does it happen that she can become difficult to deal with? As in, she's much shorter tempered and you can agitate her more easily?-Gals: do you tend to get short with people including your own boyfriend?I know the answer to both, simply, is yes, but I just wanna hear what you all think/your experiences.I know my girlfriend is having a very rough day and period this time, so I know it will pass in a few days... but, meh, just curious :DThanks.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Stick around and you can look forward to [glances both ways] MENOPAUSE!
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reader, kissxmexagainx +, writes (2 April 2009):
 I destroy everything && everyone in my path, lol. but after it's over I'm suddenly super-sweet =] My boyfriend has been able to handle it though. just never say to a girl "are you PMSing?" you will get your face ripped off, haha.
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Each woman is completely different. I, personally, used to have a harder time with the hormonal changes when I was on the pill. For some reason I would get more agitated when I was on them then when I was off.
Since having my second child, my period has changed again. Yes, the cramps and just the general BLAH feeling would make anyone moody some days. I think it would be a good idea to pamper her, you can pamper her in special ways even though its a LDR, take some extra time with her when you know its her "time of the month". Call her a little more and show her you are there for her emotionally if not physically, believe me, she will appreciate it.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (2 April 2009):
 I have noticed the older I get, the worse the cramping tends to be. I don't have a BF so can't answer that part, but I have on occasion snapped at my dad for no apparent reason while I was still living at home. He'd ask me something innocent like how my day was and I would just snap at him. He'd be surprised and either get hurt or angry and immediately afterwards, I'd be like "why did I just do that? He did nothing wrong." I don't get those mood swings during my period - it usually occurs the first couple days prior - when I feel bloated and crampy and my lower back all the way down my legs just ache.And, yes SirenaBlusera - many times I wish I was male one week every month :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): I don't change a bit. I'm exactly the same. I get mild cramping, but I've never understood the whole PMS thing. I think it gets misused/blown out of proportion sometimes.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 April 2009):
 For me, I don't get snappy and pissy so much as I get a little weepy. I think I'm just a little oversensitive during that time, but I won't scream at someone, so much as I'll suddenly feel like "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms" and go off, cry and be mopey.
My fella and I have this well worked out. I warn him when I feel it coming on and I just remind him that I am emoting. I think it's easier for him to deal with me if he at least sees it coming.
All ladies are different and all guys will deal with them differently!
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Personally, I don't have any changes of mood. I just get cramps, but they go away with Nuroflash. So no, no mood swings here... My girlfriend doesn't either. I think people use it as an excuse (both men and women)!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 I'm not sure if readers are aware of this, but I've studied science so I'll add my two cents' worth.
Dysmenorrhea (or severe menstrual pain) is something you should get checked out. There are two kinds, primary and secondary. Secondary dysmenorrhea indicates that a disorder of the reproductive organs is present (endometriosis and others). I don't want to scare anyone, but severe menstrual pain is something that should be checked out. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with you, but it's a good idea to rule out a disorder.
Honestly, I have experienced pain severe enough to make me wish I were a boy.
A hot bath helps with the pain, it's true. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjessica04, I'm not running away... never do. I'm always there and understanding. I've been with her for 13 months now and haven't run away during any of those 13 periods. I've also never asked her or assumed that she was getting moody because it was "that time of the month".
So, don't worry, I'm on the same page as you ;)
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I wish I could pamper her... I would if I could. But we are currently in a very LDR and I'm pretty sure my arms don't stretch several thousand miles ;) hehehe
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): my girlfriend doesnt get bitchy or irritable or anything, but she does get really horny for some reason. also, she sometimes has cramps but as long as you take care of your girlfriend (put a hot pad over her tummy and rub her feet, for example) she'll appreciate it. i also buy her chocolate, or icecream, or something else that she likes to cheer her up... in my experience, the cramps are the worst bit, my girlfriend is still easy to get along with though (not irritable). we've been dating for over 3 years so... i've had a lot of time to learn how to help her best. you need to find out how to help your girlfriend too! then she wont be irritable .
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Depends on the female. Before I had kids, my periods were super mellow, you wouldnt even know. After, however, they got crazy. It's painful, which alone will make you unpleasant to be around, but it also made me hormonal. So, of course, it can make a female edgy. Be glad you arent a praying mantis! Did you know that men have a menstral cycle too? It last for a day, and you don't bleed, but it happens when your hormones shift a bit. , which actually makes you the unpleasant one! Just a little FYI;)
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (1 April 2009):
 The answer is the exact opposite. Rationale and thinking like that are exactly what pegged women as less than men for centuries. that women were hystrionic, unstable, and moody. Unless you think of your girl friend as a victim of her menses, I would quickly adopt a more modern line of thought.
Yes, some women are more prone to a hormone imbalance during the days preceding their periods. But don't just dismiss her moodiness as something that cannot be helped. For most women, short tempers come about because of the physical symptoms of their menstrual cycles, like bloating, weight gain, cramping, and back pain.
Run her a nice bubble bath, dim the lights, rub her feet and serve her a fruity iced beverage, and I'll promise you her moodiness will go away. You can help her through this simply by being understanding, and not by running away waiting for the "storm" to blow over.
Personally, nothing agitates me more than being asked if I'm moody because "It's that time of the month", and even if it's not that time, I will shove my foot so far up anyone's butt til they're blowing shoe laces into their kleenex.
Just be helpful to her. Running away and giving her "space" she doesn't ask for will make her feel alienated and annoyed.
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