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writes:This is the strangest thing for me to talk about, but I have no one to talk to about it, literally, so I've come here.My neighbor is also my best friend. She's married and has kids. In the past she was gay (for 5 years) and we've always joked together about how if the marriage didn't work we'd run off together with her kids. (By the way, I'm not gay).On Saturday night her husband, her and myself all got wasted - which isn't unusual, but we ended up having a three-way. Now I can't stop thinking about her, our relationship, her body, and considerations about doing it again and the fact that her husband would have to be there. I don't know if this is a good or bad idea to try again. I want it to just be she and I, but that's cheating right? So I don't know what to do. I've never been in this situation, I just know that I'm not done with what got started.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (24 December 2009):
 it seems to me that there WAS a question--the "i'm kind of obsessed with my friend after a threesome what should I do"
...I think it warrants a legitimate answer even though it may not be either of our cups of tea, and I don't know why you think that makes me an idiot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I'm sorry for the judgemental idiots on here that don't get that there is no help for this situation and there is no question here, the deed was done, it is what it is and we call a spade a spade, not a gee I am not gay, but I just had sex with my female neighbor while her husband watched.....please.........help me
Gives Dear Cupid a bad name
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reader, fishdish +, writes (23 December 2009):
I apologize for the jugmental prudes on here..gives dearcupid a bad name, in my opinion.
It's unfortunate that you didn't consider the implications of your threesome before it had occurred...sounds like a bit of a pandora's box.
seems to me you have three options-
1- be with her via more threesomes::
it's likely that the only way to stay sexually involved with your friend is if you three continue mutually (ie not behind your husbands back) to continue your sexual adventures. I wouldn't recommend this for you, though, because it sounds like you're already invested emotionally and physically in her, but you know you can't have a partner-like realtionship with her, only a oh isn't this a fun experiment kind of experience. if, you think you can stay on the casual side of things, then maybe it'll be ok, but like i said, i feel like you're already too attached, since you're "playing favorites" and really want just her.
2- be with her alone:: if you go out on your own and try to seduce your friend, you are really only looking after your own interests: the potential for creating drama/a rift between her and her husband/a divorce is a little higher. you may even lose her as a friend if you do go behind his back, and cause the demise in the relationship; you could become an object of resentment.
3-try to shut the pandora's box. I think that there is so much potential for heartbreak in this situation, especially because you two are friends, and because you're already developing feelings for her, that this is problematic, and either you're going to get screwed over or the husband is and..it could just get ugly. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): You are right. Unless he's involved and okay with it all... it is cheating.
If he is okay and ivolved, then it can be considered 'experimenting' or 'spicing things up'.
I would stay away from another sexual encounter seeing as you want something more than simple sex and by doing something withou the husband present and consenting... you would essentially be tearing apart a perfectly good marriage.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): im not sure what you are expecting us to say...but since i cant be helpful or supportive in your quest....i will just leave you with it. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): ya, you're really helpful. thanks a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): You're gay, she's gay and her husband is a freak, have fun.
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