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writes:My Common law husband and I are expecting a baby in June.Recently his temper has been freaking me out more and more, I guess because I'm pregnant and I'm afraid of my child experiencing it. He is especially insane when he drinks which is often, he gets a look in his eyes like he's insane! I can't stand it! He has put a whole in a door, broke a door off, broke a light switch, pulled a drawer off and busted two fans because he gets so angry.I can't stand living with him anymore, and he make me feel like it's my fault because "I make him so mad".I'm so screwed now though because I am having his baby, which of course I want more then anything but now I'm afraid of what my child's life will become. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Garm  +, writes (17 December 2009):
lithium Carbonate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): His temper tantrums are a definite red flag. This should be a joyfilled time in your life, you have alot to look forward to. It is not fair to you nor your child to live in fear that you might say the wrong thing. I know it sounds cliche but maybe some sort of counseling would do him/you well. It's worth a shot, you have another being to consider now. If something isn't done to change his ways, it will only get worse. Please be cautious. Best of luck to you. Stay strong.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 December 2009):
His child is experiencing it, even now. A baby can feel its mother's stress, making it stressed. It's not your fault at all. If he can't deal with his own anger, then that's his problem, not yours. You're not screwed though. Because you can leave and he still has to pay for the child. You and your baby have a right to feel safe. And neither of you will while your boyfriend acts this way. So it's ultimatum time. Either he stops drinking and gets help for his anger, or you'll leave. And mean it. the last thing you want is your baby coming into a violent house.
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